{"id":1265,"date":"2024-12-16T08:00:56","date_gmt":"2024-12-16T16:00:56","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.creatingloveonpurpose.com\/?p=1265"},"modified":"2024-12-21T15:57:21","modified_gmt":"2024-12-21T23:57:21","slug":"stop-settling-for-crumbs","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.loveonpurpose.com\/stop-settling-for-crumbs\/","title":{"rendered":"Stop Settling For Crumbs! 5 Reasons You Should Never Settle For Less Than You Deserve"},"content":{"rendered":"

At times being alone can feel frustrating, lonely, and hopeless, particularly when you want to share your life with someone special. Loneliness can drive you to rush into exclusivity with the next person who gives you the tiniest bit of affection. If you truly want to share the rest of your life with the love of your life, stop settling for crumbs. Never settle for less than what you desire and deserve.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re struggling to feel hopeful it may seem daunting to hold out and move slowly. Every nice person, or someone with good character won\u2019t be your forever person. Dating burnout is brought through rushing in and starting over. Instead get off the dating rollercoaster. You’ll stop accepting crumbs when you believe you deserve what you desire.<\/p>\n

You deserve more than just the bare minimum. You deserve love and respect that fill you up, not scraps that barely keep you going.<\/a><\/p>\n

It\u2019s easy to convince yourself that these tiny nuggets are enough. That it\u2019s better to be partly seen or occasionally appreciated than to be lonely and alone. Just because the crumbs you receive feel like more than you\u2019d get if you were alone doesn\u2019t mean it\u2019s enough, or you should be satisfied with what you get. You settle for scraps because part of you believes that\u2019s all you deserve.<\/p>\n

Never settle for less. It doesn\u2019t have to be this way, and it\u2019s not impossible for you to believe that more is available to you.<\/p>\n

How Do You Know It\u2019s Time To Stop Settling?<\/h2>\n
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    You\u2019re Making Excuses For Their Unavailability<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Whether it\u2019s the pain of their recent divorce or their inability to trust because an ex cheated on them, you\u2019re accepting those excuses and not asking for more. You believe that with enough love and patience they\u2019ll come around and eventually give you all you desire.<\/p>\n

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      You\u2019re Waiting For Them To Give You What You Want<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

      For whatever reason, they\u2019ve let you know that they\u2019re not ready right now, but they may change their minds in the future and you\u2019re content to wait. You rationalize your choice because at least you\u2019re not on a dating app, and you can lose yourself in a fantasy to dream about the future.<\/p>\n

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        You Accept Friendship Instead Of Romance<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

        Being stuck in the friend zone<\/a> is something you accept and settle for. If you want more than friendship don\u2019t put your desires on the backburner. Move on so you don\u2019t fill the void. Nature abhors a vacuum, leave the empty space for the right person to fill.<\/p>\n

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          It\u2019s Easier Than Being Alone<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

          Being alone is hard and having someone to go out to dinner or see a movie with makes it a little easier. At least you\u2019re not always seated at a table for one and you have someone you can invite to parties with your family and friends.<\/p>\n

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            You\u2019re Focus Is On Their Healing, Not Yours<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

            You imagine that giving them enough love will cause their heart to open. You keep giving to them while wishing and hoping the situation will change. Meanwhile, you\u2019re ignoring your own needs to fulfill theirs.<\/p>\n

            No matter the reason, when you\u2019re not getting what you really want you have to decide to move on. If you don\u2019t value yourself, no one else is going to value you either. Going into sacrifice is not the way to get the love you desire and deserve.<\/p>\n

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            Stop Settling For Crumbs In Your Relationships!<\/h2>\n

            Ask yourself, \u201cDo I have a pattern of settling for less than what I really want in my relationships?\u201d<\/p>\n

            If you’re honest with yourself and answer yes, then it\u2019s time to acknowledge that you\u2019re not doing yourself any favors by investing any more of your time and heart with this person.<\/p>\n

            Anyone who allows you to continue to sacrifice your happiness for their comfort is not worth your time (plus, they are not a good friend either). It\u2019s your job to put your needs first<\/a>.<\/p>\n

            These situationships offer a certain amount of emotional intimacy that may feel good in the moment but aren\u2019t satisfying over the long term. The connection to them stops you from pursuing other relationships, ones that may have real promise. They\u2019re blocking you from meeting your ideal partner.<\/p>\n

            If someone is not making you a priority, then it\u2019s time to reciprocate and do the same. Instead of waiting for them to make a move, or for their feelings\/situation to change, take action and claim your value. Stop settling for crumbs and take a stand for yourself.<\/p>\n

            They don\u2019t have to be a horrible person or toxic, they\u2019re simply not the right match for you if their needs are met, but yours are not. Never settle for less than what you want and need.<\/p>\n

            5 Reasons You Should Never Settle In Love<\/h2>\n
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              You Deserve Someone Who Loves You<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

              A relationship where one person wants more and the other doesn\u2019t is imbalanced and therefore an unhealthy dynamic. You end up giving your power away out of fear that\u00a0the other person will reject you<\/a>. In this case, rejection is your protection. Anyone who isn\u2019t willing to step up and claim you doesn\u2019t deserve you.<\/p>\n

              Whatever the particulars of the situationship you\u2019re stuck in a dead-end relationship. You deserve to be with someone who is as crazy about you as you are about them. It\u2019s mutual attraction and affection that creates a natural balance in your relationship.<\/p>\n

              By accommodating their issues and making it easy for them, you\u2019re twisting into a pretzel in an attempt to earn love. You can only hold this shape for so long before you become angry and resentful about the situation.<\/p>\n

              Sharing your life with someone doesn\u2019t just magically happen, it requires commitment and chemistry. The needs of both people must be met the majority of the time for a healthy relationship.<\/p>\n

              If you find you\u2019re stuck in a pattern of wanting what you can\u2019t have, the first step to break this cycle is to discover more about yourself. Why do you believe you don\u2019t deserve a fulfilling relationship? Why are you uncomfortable receiving love and preoccupied with giving love? What\u2019s in your way of accepting someone that will shower you with affection and attention, and claim you?<\/p>\n

              If you stop settling for crumbs, what is your biggest fear? Never settle for less because you don’t believe you deserve more.<\/p>\n

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                You Can\u2019t Settle For A Lifetime<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                Companionship is nice when you\u2019re feeling lonely, but it isn\u2019t enough for\u00a0a lifetime together. One of the reasons to commit to someone for a lifetime is so you have someone to weather the storms of life together.<\/p>\n

                If you never settle for less than what you deserve, then you\u2019ll know that you can count on your partner to have your back<\/a>. Whether you\u2019re dealing with financial difficulties, family drama, or health concerns, knowing that your partner is going to be there for you is a great comfort. This is one of the main reasons to partner up.<\/p>\n

                There is a Swedish proverb about relationships that sums things up nicely:<\/p>\n

                \u201cShared joy is double joy. Shared sorrow is half sorrow.\u201d<\/p>\n

                You\u2019re looking to double your joy and half your sorrow. Never settle for less than someone who is just as excited about sharing a life with you as you are with them.<\/p>\n

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                  It Is Easy To Bail When Not Fully Committed<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                  When settling for less, leaving is much easier when things don\u2019t work out as planned. Committing through thick and thin requires that you have a strong connection at the beginning. The Romance Phase of a relationship doesn\u2019t last forever, but that doesn\u2019t mean that you should skip it altogether.<\/p>\n

                  The Romance Phase puts gas in the relationship tank so you and your partner can get through the inevitable power struggle that every relationship goes through. If the Romance Phase is truncated, then it\u2019s all too easy to bail on the relationship\u00a0when challenging times arise<\/a>.<\/p>\n

                  Most relationships end because the couple cannot navigate through the Power Struggle Phase. On the other side of the power struggle is the promise of unconditional lasting love. But you have to be willing to move through your conflicts and accept each other as is.<\/p>\n

                  If you\u2019re settling, you\u2019ll always wonder if there\u2019s someone better out there. Someone you would be better suited for, who understands you and will also want to be intimate with you and shower you with affection for a lifetime. Never settle for less than the commitment you desire and deserve.<\/p>\n

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                    A Good Match Is Not A Unicorn<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                    When you settle, you\u2019re treating this person like they\u2019re the only good person you\u2019ll ever meet. They\u2019re not some rare specimen you\u2019ll lose forever if you move on.<\/p>\n

                    It makes sense that you want to try to hold onto them. They make you feel good. You\u2019re getting some of your needs met. Part of you is probably afraid that you won\u2019t find another person who\u2019s willing to spend time with you.<\/p>\n

                    You end up giving your power and your self-worth<\/a> to the hope that they\u2019ll change their mind at some future date. This fear-based mindset is not serving you. You don\u2019t need to find dozens of potential prospects or scour the earth for your soulmate. You only need to find one person who\u2019s in it to win it with you. This isn\u2019t as rare as you currently believe.<\/p>\n

                    Stop settling for someone who isn\u2019t available for anything more than a situationship or a friendship.<\/p>\n

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                      Your Person Is Blocked From Finding You<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                      Because your heart is set on trying to make it work with this unavailable person, you\u2019re unable to see any better matches that are available to you. Right now, you\u2019re spending so much time and energy on them that there\u2019s no room for your person to make an appearance in your life. You wouldn\u2019t even see them if they were lingering in the periphery.<\/p>\n

                      As long as your heart is tied to someone else \u2013 even with a small thread \u2013 your beloved will not be revealed to you.<\/p>\n

                      You\u2019re wearing blinders and putting all of your focus on hoping that this person will choose you when they become ready for another relationship. You\u2019re safe for this person because you\u2019re sticking around and not asking for more. Stop settling and making it easy for them to get their needs met<\/a>.<\/p>\n

                      Never settle for less while wishing for more. The right person won\u2019t allow you to accept less than you deserve. It\u2019s about expanding your heart and growing together to become the best versions of yourselves. Since this person isn\u2019t asking anything of you, you aren\u2019t asking anything of them. There\u2019s no growth or movement in this relationship. There\u2019s no future that ends well.<\/p>\n<\/a>\r\n\r\n\r\n\n

                      Stop Settling For Crumbs And Start Making An Effort To Meet Your Beloved<\/h2>\n

                      Stop settling and\u00a0start dating<\/a>! Go out with as many people as you can. Stop wasting one more moment of your precious time with someone who is clearly not interested in a relationship with you \u2013 and is willing for you to not have what you desire so they can have you available when they need to feel good about themselves.<\/p>\n

                      If you ask this person, \u201cWhere is this relationship going?\u201d, they\u2019ll probably mumble something about not being ready right now. Waiting for them to become ready in the hope that they choose you is not a good strategy for lasting love. When someone tells you they\u2019re not ready for a relationship, believe them. Never settle for less than someone who wants to be with you and is willing to make the effort to make it happen.<\/p>\n

                      Stop settling for crumbs and go out and create the relationship you deserve!<\/p>\n

                      If you find yourself settling for less than you desire and don\u2019t know how to break this pattern, then join us for a complimentary\u00a0Breakthrough Call<\/a>. We\u2019ll get to the root of what\u2019s blocking you and share a plan for creating the lasting love you desire. Never settle for less and you’ll get the love you want.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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