You can find a good man almost anywhere, it\u2019s just a matter of changing your strategies<\/a> for finding an ideal match for long-lasting love. A good man is not a unicorn.\u00a0There are plenty of them right in your town \u2014 wherever you may live. The hyperfocus on finding a quality man actually makes it harder for you to find the right man for you.<\/p>\n Here\u2019s why your focus on finding a quality man is blocking you from the long-lasting love you want.<\/p>\n Just like beauty, quality <\/em>is in the eye of the beholder. When finding a quality man to date no definition of quality matches what every woman desires. Your preferences belong to you.<\/p>\n Since every woman has different criteria for what constitutes a quality man (or a good match for them), there isn\u2019t one location that quality men tend to frequent. You can find your type of good man amongst all kinds of other men.<\/p>\n Some men have done a ton of personal growth work and are not good relationship material<\/a>. Other men, who\u2019ve never read a self-help book. are great men who want a relationship, a family, and to fall in love for a lifetime.<\/p>\n The same could be said for income level, religion, education, or any other attribute that someone defines as quality.<\/p>\n There\u2019s no generic recipe or one-size-fits-most when looking for a life partner. Plus, in looking for \u201cmen\u201d rather than \u201cyour man\u201d you\u2019re setting yourself up for frustration.<\/p>\n Dating for your soulmate is not like putting out a casting call in Hollywood. You don\u2019t need quality\u00a0men<\/strong>\u00a0\u2013 you simply need one. One man who\u2019s an ideal match for you and will stand by you.<\/p>\n Lumping men into a generic group is simply not how the world is and says a lot about your mindset. Albert Einstein said, \u201cYou cannot solve a problem with the same mind that created it.\u201d Finding a quality man to date has more to do with your state of mind rather than what\u2019s available out in the world.<\/p>\n If you\u2019re trying to find a good man to date and you only see guys who don\u2019t measure up, then you\u2019re dividing all men into only two categories: Quality and Inferior.<\/p>\n This type of black-and-white thinking<\/a> causes you to reject men for any and every reason under the sun. Finding fault with most of the men you meet before you get to know them will keep you single and frustrated, just as deselecting every guy you see online before meeting them in person.<\/p>\n There are more than two types of men in the world. The world is full of varied kinds of men, just as there are many types of women. You\u2019re not going to know immediately if a guy is your match right away.<\/p>\n Plus, how are you supposed to distinguish these quality men from all the other men in the world? It\u2019s not like they\u2019re all wearing the same color hat or sweatshirt as a mark of their high quality.<\/p>\n You\u2019re not finding a quality man by creating a detailed list of characteristics and then eliminating every man who doesn\u2019t immediately match the list.<\/p>\n Instead of judging a guy because he doesn\u2019t fit your rigid criteria, notice how he shows up for you. Dating is a process, so take your time getting to know someone instead of writing him off before he\u2019s had a chance to show you what he\u2019s really made of.<\/p>\n If you\u2019re divorced from a cheater<\/a>, or you recently broke up with an emotionally unavailable man, or you\u2019re tired of dating guys who show up hot and then go cold, then you\u2019re probably struggling to find a good man because you\u2019re hypersensitive to the type of man who\u2019s hurt you. It makes sense you don\u2019t want a repeat situation, but you can\u2019t find a good man by avoiding the type who\u2019s broken your heart.<\/p>\n You cannot create from lack, so avoiding the type of guy who\u2019s hurt you won\u2019t bring you closer to meeting your ideal match. By putting your focus on what you don\u2019t want, you\u2019ve told your mind to highlight the type of guy who\u2019s hurt you. You\u2019ll struggle finding a quality man because your mind will only see the type of men you\u2019re trying to avoid.<\/p>\n Instead of looking for the wrong man in order to avoid him, you can put all your energy into finding the quality man that\u2019s the right fit for you long-term.<\/p>\n If you\u2019re a successful woman you\u2019re probably comfortable in your masculine energy. It serves you in your career, so it\u2019s easy to use those same strategies while dating. Instead of giving him space to show off for you, you\u2019re too busy showing him how great you are.<\/p>\n Some successful women believe they intimidate men and therefore have trouble finding a quality man. That\u2019s not the real problem. When you\u2019re showing off you\u2019re in your masculine energy<\/a> it creates a competitive atmosphere on the date.<\/p>\n Men compete with other men; they don\u2019t want to compete with their woman. An alpha male will deselect himself because he doesn\u2019t want to compete with his lover. A more feminine man will relax into his feminine energy and let you do all the heavy lifting and you\u2019ll feel insecure because he\u2019s not stepping up for you.<\/p>\n Instead of waiting for him to reveal what he wants, you\u2019re pursuing the relationship and moving things forward. These strategies will make it difficult to find a good man because you won\u2019t know what his intentions are. Eventually you\u2019ll be asking him \u201cWhere is this relationship going?\u201d<\/p>\n As far as he\u2019s concerned, it\u2019s going great for him. He\u2019s getting exactly what he needs, companionship and regular sex.<\/p>\n If you\u2019re interested in finding a quality man who wants to be in a relationship with you, stop doing so much. Relax into your feminine energy and let him lead. With your feminine energy you can respond, but you don\u2019t have to follow. If the relationship doesn\u2019t go anywhere then you\u2019ll know exactly what his intentions are.<\/p>\n A relationship-ready man will pursue you for a relationship, he\u2019ll want to claim you and take you off the market.<\/p>\n It can be exciting to jump in the sack when you first meet a guy you like, but if you want to find a good man, slow things down. When you move too fast you let your excitement cloud your judgment and you ignore possible red flags.<\/p>\n Some men are more in love with the idea of you and make big romantic gestures on the first few dates. This may feel great, but you\u2019ve just met and don\u2019t really know each other. Most guys that love-bomb don\u2019t have what it takes to go the distance in a long-term partnership.<\/p>\n Finding a quality man requires that you slow things down<\/a> and discover if the two of you are an ideal match before you commit to exclusivity. Otherwise, you may find that he runs away the second things become difficult because his fantasy doesn\u2019t include disagreements.<\/p>\n The right man will let you set the pace. He\u2019ll be patient and willing to put in the time to prove to you that he\u2019s in it to win it with you. Practice slow love and hold off on exclusivity. Date a few men in a rotation so you can experience the differences in how men pursue and show up. When you find a good man he\u2019ll put in the effort to win your heart.<\/p>\n Most men you go on a first date with or interact with through an app or an online dating site don\u2019t have a dating coach. They\u2019re probably using the same dating strategies they developed when they were young men just figuring things out. Patience, curiosity, and a little effort will help you find a good man who just doesn\u2019t make a great impression on a first or second date.<\/p>\n Good men are just as cautious as many women are about dating. They\u2019ve had their hearts broken and are struggling to find lasting love. It\u2019s often the guy who isn\u2019t interested in a long-term relationship who comes across as confident and aggressive at the beginning.<\/p>\n Finding a quality man requires patience with the men you\u2019re meeting. Be curious and open. Redirect him when necessary. Give him a chance and he may prove to be a lot more capable than you\u2019re aware of at the beginning.<\/p>\n You may secretly believe that you\u2019re not worthy of finding a quality man, so you settle for less. You find yourself in dead-end relationships<\/a> with men who don\u2019t treat you the way you deserve to be treated.<\/p>\n Not valuing yourself causes you to ignore obvious signs he\u2019s not a quality man.<\/p>\n Settling for the first guy who\u2019s interested in you. Tolerating disrespectful behavior and go along with choices you don\u2019t agree with to avoid scaring him away. Not speaking up and asking for what you want. Being too accommodating because you don\u2019t want to be alone.<\/p>\n Instead of settling for the guy who\u2019s less than ideal for you, train yourself to build your self-confidence and self-esteem. You deserve to find a good man who gets you and will stick by you.<\/p>\n Finding a quality man doesn\u2019t mean he\u2019ll come with mind-reading powers. Knowing how to communicate your feelings and desires goes a long way to identifying a quality man over an inferior one.<\/p>\n A quality man can be inspired to step up<\/a>\u00a0into his better self. He\u2019ll see your requests as clues to how to please you, make you happy, and win your heart.<\/p>\n An inferior man will become defensive and possibly dismiss your feelings and your needs. Or he may agree to your request but not put in any effort to deliver on it.<\/p>\n You\u2019ll never discover who he is or what he\u2019s capable of if you don\u2019t speak your needs and desires with him. Judging him because he\u2019s not a mind reader may keep your heart safe, but you\u2019ll never know if he\u2019s capable of stepping up for you.<\/p>\n Approach each man with curiosity, share your dreams and goals with him. Let him know your feelings and let him see the real authentic you. Give him the space to step up for you and provide your needs and wants.<\/p>\n The right man for you will want to provide you with lifelong happiness. He\u2019ll always want to bring a smile to your face.<\/p>\n Stop worrying about finding a quality man and instead start looking for the man who\u2019s the right match for you long-term. He\u2019s the one who\u2019s willing and able to meet your needs and wants to make you happy. He\u2019s moving the relationship forward and showing you that he wants a relationship with you every step of the way.<\/p>\n Give him time to get to know you while you\u2019re dating and if he doesn\u2019t move the relationship forward move on.<\/p>\nThe Myth Of Finding A Quality Man \u2014 8 Reasons Why You Can\u2019t Find A Good Man<\/h2>\n
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Finding A Quality Man Is Subjective<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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Your Unrealistic Standards Limit Your Choices<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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You\u2019re Trying To Avoid Pain<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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You\u2019re Showing Off Instead Of Showing Up<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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You\u2019re Moving Too Quickly<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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You\u2019re Judging Him Too Quickly<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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You Don\u2019t Value Yourself<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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You\u2019re Expecting Him To Be A Mind Reader<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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