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You Are Not Destined To Be Alone<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
We hear from women around the globe who hold this false belief. They\u2019ve suffered heartache after heartbreak and at some point feel like giving up. Their inner voice keeps saying, \u201cMaybe I\u2019m just meant to be alone in this lifetime.\u201d<\/p>\n
While we understand this train of thought, we want you to know that there is no higher power punishing you by forcing you to be alone. You are not broken and unable to love or be loved.<\/p>\n
When you get tired of being single it can feel like you are the exception and that everyone else has it easy.<\/p>\n
The truth is\u00a0relationships are not always easy,<\/a>\u00a0even between two people who love each other. Relationships last because two people choose to work through the hard times together.<\/p>\n
You are not so special that you didn\u2019t get\u00a0the magic fairy dust of love\u00a0this time around. You are not destined to be alone because you are different than everyone else. In actuality, this struggle is very common and has been overcome by millions of other people.<\/p>\n
Let\u2019s face it, sex is instinctual. Long-term monogamous relationships are not. Lasting love requires certain skills, all of which can be learned, and there is an entirely different learning curve on discovering how to select an ideal partner.<\/p>\n
No matter your age or where you live, you can release your false beliefs that block you from the love you want.<\/p>\n
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Lasting Love Does Not Happen By Accident<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
The feeling of connecting deeply with another person along with the chemistry spark of attraction feels like magic \u2013 but it\u2019s not.<\/p>\n
Put away the romance novels and stop watching the \u201cmeet-cute\u201d romantic comedies if you cannot keep your expectations in check. While these can be an enjoyable escape from the stress of everyday life, they are not realistic about lasting love.<\/p>\n
For a dose of reality check out the hit show\u00a0Catastrophe on Amazon<\/a>. It\u2019s so refreshing to see the dirty underside of a relationship between two people doing their best to make it work.<\/p>\n
We don\u2019t mean to burst your bubble, but lasting love won\u2019t magically show up when you least expect it.<\/p>\n
This doesn\u2019t mean that there won\u2019t be magic when you finally meet your soulmate. The romance phase of relationship is designed to bond the two of you together so that you can last through the inevitable power struggle stage that follows.<\/p>\n
Long-lasting love can be accomplished if you have a plan and take regular actions toward your goal \u2013 just like everything else you\u2019ve planned for, been educated about, and have achieved thus far in your life.<\/p>\n
Every generation over the last 100 years has had to struggle with discovering new ways of meeting their soulmate. Gone are the days when you would be introduced to your future spouse by a close friend or family member<\/p>\n
In the past, people would go to dances, publish personal ads in the newspaper, use video dating services or matchmakers, and attend singles events to meet their future husband or wife.<\/p>\n
Technology and modern society may have changed the way we meet, but it hasn\u2019t changed\u00a0the basic rules of dating. The tools are only there for the initial connection; you still have to go to that first date.<\/p>\n
When you get tired of being single, sign up for online dating services, download the most recent apps, and start dating to discover more about yourself and what you desire in a partner.<\/p>\n
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Love Works Like Any Other Goal \u2013 Have A Plan And Take Action<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
You know that your car won\u2019t fix itself when you least expect it. You\u2019re not going to lose 20lbs because you stop looking for ways to get healthier.<\/p>\n
And yet, our society clings to the ridiculous notion that in order to find love, you have to stop looking for it.<\/p>\n
Love follows the same rules as any other goal you hope to accomplish. You wouldn\u2019t plan on paying your bills with a job that just shows up magically one day because you need the money.<\/p>\n
And yet, you allow the myths about love to guide your actions.<\/p>\n
Take time to get clear on what you really want (and not just the opposite of what didn\u2019t work in the past). This doesn\u2019t mean that you should create a comprehensive list of every quality that you are looking for in a partner.<\/p>\n
You want to have a clear vision of the dynamic between the two of you.\u00a0How you want to be treated.<\/a>\u00a0How you want to feel with your partner.<\/p>\n
Lasting love happens between two people who are a values match. That way when the inevitable conflicts arise the two of you are on the same page about what is most important.<\/p>\n
When you get tired of being single it can feel like the relationship you desire is a long way off. But when you get a clear picture of what you want then you\u2019ve tapped into your own ability to manifest and love can come quickly.<\/p>\n
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Your Past Relationships Gave You The Clues To Finding Your Soulmate<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
You are the common denominator in all of your relationships.<\/p>\n
This one concept can send you well on your way to solving your relationship riddle. You can\u2019t solve a problem that is outside of you.<\/p>\n
You can\u2019t solve the problem if men are the problem. Or if all men _____[fill in the blank]___.<\/p>\n
If you are too narrow in your search and your focus is on avoiding a particular kind of man we would bet that is the kind of man you meet over and over and over again.<\/p>\n
However, if you dig into the patterns of your past relationships, then you will find the clues to why love has been difficult for you so far. Your \u201cwhy\u201d goes back to your own limiting beliefs, mental\/emotional patterns, and behavioral strategies for giving and receiving love.<\/p>\n
This understanding puts you in the driver\u2019s seat to making the necessary changes to get a new result. You cannot change something unless you are aware of it so looking inward is where your solution lies.<\/p>\n
People come into your life for a reason. Maybe you need to learn how to keep and set boundaries. Or come to the realization that someone can\u2019t love you more than you love yourself.<\/p>\n
Perhaps it\u2019s part of your journey to know your own intrinsic value and not sacrifice your own needs in an attempt to earn love, approval, or acceptance.<\/p>\n
Maybe you chase unavailable partners because you\u2019re hard on yourself so feeling love is elusive.<\/p>\n
When you get tired of being single take the time to discover patterns in your past relationships and begin the process of healing those wounds.<\/p>\n
You can avoid feeling bitter<\/a>\u00a0about your journey to love when you are grateful for the challenges you\u2019ve faced because they contributed to you becoming the person you are today.<\/p>\n
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You Can Promise To Love, Honor, And Cherish\u2026Yourself!<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
Ultimately, the love you are seeking is inside of you. You don\u2019t get love from another person. You share love with that person, and the love you share comes from inside of you.<\/p>\n
Make a commitment to treat yourself the way you wish to be treated by your beloved. If you want someone to accept you as you are, then start practicing compassion for yourself even when you mess things up.<\/p>\n
Practice saying kind and loving things to yourself when you make a mistake. If you are a perfectionist, then memorize the phrase, \u201cIt sure sucks not being perfect.\u201d Focus on a solution rather than being critical of yourself.<\/p>\n
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Promising to love yourself means that you won\u2019t abandon yourself. This means speaking up when it\u2019s required of you and not allowing someone to treat you badly or disrespect you.<\/p>\n
Cherishing yourself means focusing on the good in your life. Practice gratitude daily. Do things by yourself that you want to do when you are with your beloved.<\/p>\n
How would you behave if you knew your soulmate was already here? Move through your day knowing that he is right around the corner and notice what\u2019s different when you hold this mindset.<\/p>\n
When you get tired of being single,\u00a0make an effort to live a full life.<\/a>\u00a0Don\u2019t put things off. Time isn\u2019t standing still for you, it just keeps moving forward. Create a full life of friends and activities you enjoy all while making the effort to meet new people.<\/p>\n
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