You may think that all the guys you\u2019ve fallen for are different, however, it\u2019s you that is the common denominator in all of your relationships. Discovering your particular pattern is the key to creating the lasting love you desire.<\/p>\n
7 Ways To Heal A Broken Heart And Move On Energetically So You Stop Attracting The Same Kind Of Men<\/h2>\n\n- \n
Cut Off Contact From The Guy Who Broke Your Heart<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
Your broken heart is an open wound right now and you need time to let it heal. Checking his Facebook and Instagram or responding to his texts to \u201cjust be friends\u201d will keep that wound open.<\/p>\n
In order to start the healing process, you\u2019ll want to cut off all contact. Block him on social media. You don\u2019t need to be checking on where he is and who he\u2019s hanging out with.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/a>\r\n\r\n\r\n\nChange his name in your phone to \u201cDo Not Answer\u201d and follow these instructions when he reaches out. This way you won\u2019t accidentally get sucked back in. Simply deleting him from your phone can cause a problem later when you unintentionally answer\u00a0his familiar-looking number.<\/a><\/p>\nWhen you\u2019re looking for ways to heal a broken heart and move on, cutting off all contact with him is the first step.<\/p>\n
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Allow Your Feelings To Flow Through You<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
Heartbreak is one of the worst feelings in the world. However, putting on a brave face and trying to ignore the hurt, anger, and sadness will just prolong the pain. The saying, \u201cWhat you resist persists,\u201d is most true when you have a broken heart and feel badly.<\/p>\n
These awful feelings won\u2019t last, they\u2019re only temporary because\u00a0emotions are not static<\/a>. Think of your emotions like ocean waves crashing on the shore. Allowing the waves of emotion to flow through your body will create space for you to feel something else.<\/p>\nGive yourself time to feel all of your feelings, the good, bad, and the ugly. Throw yourself a pity party. Play sad heartbreak songs and have a good cry. Set aside time to just scream into a pillow or underwater in a bath. Let your feelings flow and you will find that you\u2018ll feel better a lot faster than if you just stew and resist expressing yourself.<\/p>\n
Your desire for love is part of the human experience so there\u2019s no need to feel shame that your heart is broken. The actions you choose to take now can change the course of your love life for good, but first, you must give yourself time to grieve.<\/p>\n
And for those of you on a spiritual path don\u2019t skip this vital step. Rather than spiritual bypassing the icky feelings embrace the full range of human emotions. It\u2019s okay to feel angry, just don\u2019t take destructive actions, simply allow your emotions to be whatever they are.<\/p>\n
Acknowledge and express your feelings. A swift way to heal a broken heart and move on is to first allow yourself to grieve what you have lost.<\/p>\n
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Kill The Hope That This Guy Will Become The One For You<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
Hope is the first thing to enter a relationship and the last thing to leave. It can be hard to let go of hope when a relationship ends, so we\u2019re going to give it to you straight. Please don\u2019t shoot the messenger, we\u2019re here delivering the tough love you need to heal your heart and move on.<\/p>\n
Part of you is still wishing and hoping that he\u2019ll change his mind and want you back. Accepting that this is never going to happen is an important but difficult step.<\/p>\n
He\u2019s not going to suddenly become The One for you. Don\u2019t waste another minute hoping he\u2019ll realize he made a big mistake. Kill the hope that he\u2019ll see what a fool he is for ending things. Kill the hope that he\u2019ll become someone other than who he is right now.<\/p>\n
This may sound a little harsh, but you\u2019ll thank us when you\u2019re with someone new who values you and treats you like a goddess. Killing the hope opens up\u00a0the possibility for someone else, someone even better, to come into your life<\/a>.<\/p>\nOf all the ways to heal a broken heart and move on this one can be the most difficult. That little girl inside of you so wants to prove to him that you are worthy of his love. Killing the hope is one of the most loving acts you can take for yourself.<\/p>\n
Take this step and watch your self-love and self-confidence grow.<\/p>\n
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Forgive Him, Forgive Yourself, And Get The Learning From The Experience<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
The reason forgiveness is not at the top of this list is that you won\u2019t be ready to forgive until you have given yourself time to grieve. There is no need to rush to forgiveness.<\/p>\n
Allowing yourself to feel all those bad feelings first paves the way for you to reach a place where you can forgive, heal your heart, and move on.<\/p>\n
Forgiveness releases you energetically from the relationship and the energetic connection of being emotionally entangled with him.<\/p>\n
Forgiveness requires a conscious choice to release your hurt, anger, and resentment, whether or not he deserves it. It doesn\u2019t condone or excuse his behavior, nor should you just forget what happened.<\/p>\n
You may also need to forgive yourself for your behavior in the relationship. Maybe your communication wasn\u2019t always kind. Perhaps you made some mistakes and you regret things you\u2019ve said or done.<\/p>\n
Owning your mistakes and taking responsibility for your part in the break-up is good. Taking too much responsibility and blaming yourself for the failure of the relationship will just make things worse. The dance of relationship is like any other partner dance \u2013 it takes two to create it. You are only responsible for your own actions not the behavior or response of the other person.<\/p>\n
Forgive yourself for not being perfect \u2013 no human being is. There is no such thing as perfection and trying to live up to that unrealistic expectation is hurting you more than you can imagine.<\/p>\n
Taking these steps allows you to release yourself energetically from him and from the relationship. This may require you to\u00a0find the Golden Nugget of Learning\u2122<\/a>\u00a0from the situation.<\/p>\nWhat did this relationship show up to teach you? Did you need to learn how to set clearer boundaries? Maybe you needed to learn to love and value yourself!<\/p>\n
Whatever the reason, when you find the Golden Nugget, you\u2019ll allow yourself to feel grateful for the situation. This gratitude will let you finally release yourself from him so that you can be free to love again.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/a>\r\n\r\n\r\n\n\n- \n
What Are The Goodies You Get From This Unhealthy Pattern?<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
All of your behavior has positive intent. The results of your behavior may not be positive, but the intention underneath is to get something you need, like love, approval, or acceptance.<\/p>\n
You learned how to love in your family of origin<\/a>\u00a0\u2013 just like you learned to walk, talk, and tie your shoe. Once you know these things you do them on autopilot. Walking into a room you don\u2019t consciously decide to find someone attractive \u2014 it just happens (also on autopilot).<\/p>\nThink about it this way, when you walk into a room of a hundred people you\u2019ve never met before some of those people stand out. It\u2019s like they are highlighted for you. The rest of the people are like extras in your own personal movie. You know they\u2019re in the room, but they\u2019re kind of gray and in the background, and a bit fuzzy \u2013 they don\u2019t pop.<\/p>\n
The root cause of your unhealthy patterns in love comes from the disparity of not being loved the way you wanted to be loved in your family of origin. The bad news is that you\u2019ve been unconsciously a slave to this core wound.<\/p>\n
We call this subconscious program Your Love Imprint\u00ae<\/sup> and it causes the familiar dynamic from your family to be highlighted out in the world while the great guy that would be an ideal match for you is just grayed out and out of focus for you. It\u2019s like he doesn\u2019t exist.<\/p>\nUltimately when you discover your core wound you\u2019ll no longer be stuck in \u201cNew Face \u2014 Same Guy Syndrome.\u201d The knowledge that you\u2019re pining for the thing you can\u2019t have will forever change the way you date and select a mate.<\/p>\n
The process of identifying your core wound and transforming it is the shortest of all the ways to heal your heart and move on so you can create the lasting love you deserve.<\/p>\n
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Get Clarity Before Rushing Into Another Relationship<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
Most people date backwards which means that you\u2019re likely doing this very common mistake. You wait to find a person that gives you all the feels and from there you try to make the relationship work.<\/p>\n
You may have tried to make it with the nice guy that you had no chemistry with only to find that didn\u2019t work either.<\/p>\n
Here\u2019s the real-deal common sense about love that no one else will tell you: You don\u2019t have to choose between having chemistry or not<\/a>. You get to have lasting love with a guy who lights you up!<\/p>\nNever settle for a relationship without the spark because you cannot settle for a lifetime. At some point, it won\u2019t be worth it to stay the course. It\u2019s too easy to walk away when you hit that inevitable second stage of relationship \u2014 The Power Struggle \u2014 without chemistry.<\/p>\n
Instead, create a\u00a0crystal-clear vision of the relationship you want without inserting a face into the image. Know how you want the relationship to function. Decide ahead of time the dynamic you desire between the two of you. Before you ever meet, choose the feelings that he invokes inside of you and all the body sensations that you would like to have.<\/p>\n
Most people are clear on what they do not want. When they imagine their desire it\u2019s usually vague and not in focus. Or if it\u2019s clear it\u2019s an attachment to a specific person.<\/p>\n
You are the master creator of your life! Once you embrace this truth you\u2019re in the driver\u2019s seat to create change in every part of your life. It\u2019s your choice to heal your broken heart and move on. No man will show up and suddenly make your life better. It\u2019s up to you to create a life that is in alignment with your highest and best self and then create the vision of the relationship you want.<\/p>\n
Once you are clear on the vision of what you want you won\u2019t be far from living it.<\/p>\n
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Say No To Anything That Doesn\u2019t Align With Your Vision<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
There\u2019s one caveat that may show up, and when it does you must commit to stay on course to lasting love with an ideal partner. When you take the steps above it’s likely that you\u2019ll be tested.<\/p>\n![](\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns%3D%27http%3A%2F%2Fwww.w3.org%2F2000%2Fsvg%27%20width%3D%27831%27%20height%3D%2760%27%20viewBox%3D%270%200%20831%2060%27%3E%3Crect%20width%3D%27831%27%20height%3D%2760%27%20fill-opacity%3D%220%22%2F%3E%3C%2Fsvg%3E\")
<\/a>\r\n\r\n\r\n\nYour old pattern may show up again. The tempting familiar situation with a guy who lights you up may show up one more time.<\/p>\n
It\u2019s very important you say no to the old way of being and reject him. This guy is just a reminder that you know better now. That you\u2019ve evolved past him and his type.<\/p>\n
You\u2019re no longer a slave to that autopilot response of falling for the guy who is a match to Your Love Imprint\u00ae<\/sup>. The familiar may appear tempting, but it\u2019s up to this\u00a0newly educated version of you<\/a>\u00a0to turn it down.<\/p>\nSaying no to anything that is not what you want means that you know you deserve to have what you truly desire. In order to heal your heart and move on you must stay the course to say, \u201cNo,\u201d and to look for a new way to select a mate.<\/p>\n
We want you to know that you can stumble, and you can hit that repeat button again and again and you\u2019ll still get another chance. As a matter of fact, if you don\u2019t believe us and you go back to Mr. Unavailable yet again this article will still be here. And we\u2019ll still be here because at any point you can decide to evolve past what is familiar so you can create what is in your true heart\u2019s desire.<\/p>\n
You\u2019ll always have another opportunity to grow towards your beloved. Your beloved is the man who will stand by you no matter what, the one who you can count on as sure as you know the sun will rise tomorrow, the one you\u2019re hot for and he\u2019s also hot for you.<\/p>\n
Cut Off Contact From The Guy Who Broke Your Heart<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
Your broken heart is an open wound right now and you need time to let it heal. Checking his Facebook and Instagram or responding to his texts to \u201cjust be friends\u201d will keep that wound open.<\/p>\n
In order to start the healing process, you\u2019ll want to cut off all contact. Block him on social media. You don\u2019t need to be checking on where he is and who he\u2019s hanging out with.<\/p>\n Change his name in your phone to \u201cDo Not Answer\u201d and follow these instructions when he reaches out. This way you won\u2019t accidentally get sucked back in. Simply deleting him from your phone can cause a problem later when you unintentionally answer\u00a0his familiar-looking number.<\/a><\/p>\n When you\u2019re looking for ways to heal a broken heart and move on, cutting off all contact with him is the first step.<\/p>\n Heartbreak is one of the worst feelings in the world. However, putting on a brave face and trying to ignore the hurt, anger, and sadness will just prolong the pain. The saying, \u201cWhat you resist persists,\u201d is most true when you have a broken heart and feel badly.<\/p>\n These awful feelings won\u2019t last, they\u2019re only temporary because\u00a0emotions are not static<\/a>. Think of your emotions like ocean waves crashing on the shore. Allowing the waves of emotion to flow through your body will create space for you to feel something else.<\/p>\n Give yourself time to feel all of your feelings, the good, bad, and the ugly. Throw yourself a pity party. Play sad heartbreak songs and have a good cry. Set aside time to just scream into a pillow or underwater in a bath. Let your feelings flow and you will find that you\u2018ll feel better a lot faster than if you just stew and resist expressing yourself.<\/p>\n Your desire for love is part of the human experience so there\u2019s no need to feel shame that your heart is broken. The actions you choose to take now can change the course of your love life for good, but first, you must give yourself time to grieve.<\/p>\n And for those of you on a spiritual path don\u2019t skip this vital step. Rather than spiritual bypassing the icky feelings embrace the full range of human emotions. It\u2019s okay to feel angry, just don\u2019t take destructive actions, simply allow your emotions to be whatever they are.<\/p>\n Acknowledge and express your feelings. A swift way to heal a broken heart and move on is to first allow yourself to grieve what you have lost.<\/p>\n Hope is the first thing to enter a relationship and the last thing to leave. It can be hard to let go of hope when a relationship ends, so we\u2019re going to give it to you straight. Please don\u2019t shoot the messenger, we\u2019re here delivering the tough love you need to heal your heart and move on.<\/p>\n Part of you is still wishing and hoping that he\u2019ll change his mind and want you back. Accepting that this is never going to happen is an important but difficult step.<\/p>\n He\u2019s not going to suddenly become The One for you. Don\u2019t waste another minute hoping he\u2019ll realize he made a big mistake. Kill the hope that he\u2019ll see what a fool he is for ending things. Kill the hope that he\u2019ll become someone other than who he is right now.<\/p>\n This may sound a little harsh, but you\u2019ll thank us when you\u2019re with someone new who values you and treats you like a goddess. Killing the hope opens up\u00a0the possibility for someone else, someone even better, to come into your life<\/a>.<\/p>\n Of all the ways to heal a broken heart and move on this one can be the most difficult. That little girl inside of you so wants to prove to him that you are worthy of his love. Killing the hope is one of the most loving acts you can take for yourself.<\/p>\n Take this step and watch your self-love and self-confidence grow.<\/p>\n The reason forgiveness is not at the top of this list is that you won\u2019t be ready to forgive until you have given yourself time to grieve. There is no need to rush to forgiveness.<\/p>\n Allowing yourself to feel all those bad feelings first paves the way for you to reach a place where you can forgive, heal your heart, and move on.<\/p>\n Forgiveness releases you energetically from the relationship and the energetic connection of being emotionally entangled with him.<\/p>\n Forgiveness requires a conscious choice to release your hurt, anger, and resentment, whether or not he deserves it. It doesn\u2019t condone or excuse his behavior, nor should you just forget what happened.<\/p>\n You may also need to forgive yourself for your behavior in the relationship. Maybe your communication wasn\u2019t always kind. Perhaps you made some mistakes and you regret things you\u2019ve said or done.<\/p>\n Owning your mistakes and taking responsibility for your part in the break-up is good. Taking too much responsibility and blaming yourself for the failure of the relationship will just make things worse. The dance of relationship is like any other partner dance \u2013 it takes two to create it. You are only responsible for your own actions not the behavior or response of the other person.<\/p>\n Forgive yourself for not being perfect \u2013 no human being is. There is no such thing as perfection and trying to live up to that unrealistic expectation is hurting you more than you can imagine.<\/p>\n Taking these steps allows you to release yourself energetically from him and from the relationship. This may require you to\u00a0find the Golden Nugget of Learning\u2122<\/a>\u00a0from the situation.<\/p>\n What did this relationship show up to teach you? Did you need to learn how to set clearer boundaries? Maybe you needed to learn to love and value yourself!<\/p>\n Whatever the reason, when you find the Golden Nugget, you\u2019ll allow yourself to feel grateful for the situation. This gratitude will let you finally release yourself from him so that you can be free to love again.<\/p>\n All of your behavior has positive intent. The results of your behavior may not be positive, but the intention underneath is to get something you need, like love, approval, or acceptance.<\/p>\n You learned how to love in your family of origin<\/a>\u00a0\u2013 just like you learned to walk, talk, and tie your shoe. Once you know these things you do them on autopilot. Walking into a room you don\u2019t consciously decide to find someone attractive \u2014 it just happens (also on autopilot).<\/p>\n Think about it this way, when you walk into a room of a hundred people you\u2019ve never met before some of those people stand out. It\u2019s like they are highlighted for you. The rest of the people are like extras in your own personal movie. You know they\u2019re in the room, but they\u2019re kind of gray and in the background, and a bit fuzzy \u2013 they don\u2019t pop.<\/p>\n The root cause of your unhealthy patterns in love comes from the disparity of not being loved the way you wanted to be loved in your family of origin. The bad news is that you\u2019ve been unconsciously a slave to this core wound.<\/p>\n We call this subconscious program Your Love Imprint\u00ae<\/sup> and it causes the familiar dynamic from your family to be highlighted out in the world while the great guy that would be an ideal match for you is just grayed out and out of focus for you. It\u2019s like he doesn\u2019t exist.<\/p>\n Ultimately when you discover your core wound you\u2019ll no longer be stuck in \u201cNew Face \u2014 Same Guy Syndrome.\u201d The knowledge that you\u2019re pining for the thing you can\u2019t have will forever change the way you date and select a mate.<\/p>\n The process of identifying your core wound and transforming it is the shortest of all the ways to heal your heart and move on so you can create the lasting love you deserve.<\/p>\n Most people date backwards which means that you\u2019re likely doing this very common mistake. You wait to find a person that gives you all the feels and from there you try to make the relationship work.<\/p>\n You may have tried to make it with the nice guy that you had no chemistry with only to find that didn\u2019t work either.<\/p>\n Here\u2019s the real-deal common sense about love that no one else will tell you: You don\u2019t have to choose between having chemistry or not<\/a>. You get to have lasting love with a guy who lights you up!<\/p>\n Never settle for a relationship without the spark because you cannot settle for a lifetime. At some point, it won\u2019t be worth it to stay the course. It\u2019s too easy to walk away when you hit that inevitable second stage of relationship \u2014 The Power Struggle \u2014 without chemistry.<\/p>\n Instead, create a\u00a0crystal-clear vision of the relationship you want without inserting a face into the image. Know how you want the relationship to function. Decide ahead of time the dynamic you desire between the two of you. Before you ever meet, choose the feelings that he invokes inside of you and all the body sensations that you would like to have.<\/p>\n Most people are clear on what they do not want. When they imagine their desire it\u2019s usually vague and not in focus. Or if it\u2019s clear it\u2019s an attachment to a specific person.<\/p>\n You are the master creator of your life! Once you embrace this truth you\u2019re in the driver\u2019s seat to create change in every part of your life. It\u2019s your choice to heal your broken heart and move on. No man will show up and suddenly make your life better. It\u2019s up to you to create a life that is in alignment with your highest and best self and then create the vision of the relationship you want.<\/p>\n Once you are clear on the vision of what you want you won\u2019t be far from living it.<\/p>\n There\u2019s one caveat that may show up, and when it does you must commit to stay on course to lasting love with an ideal partner. When you take the steps above it’s likely that you\u2019ll be tested.<\/p>\n Your old pattern may show up again. The tempting familiar situation with a guy who lights you up may show up one more time.<\/p>\n It\u2019s very important you say no to the old way of being and reject him. This guy is just a reminder that you know better now. That you\u2019ve evolved past him and his type.<\/p>\n You\u2019re no longer a slave to that autopilot response of falling for the guy who is a match to Your Love Imprint\u00ae<\/sup>. The familiar may appear tempting, but it\u2019s up to this\u00a0newly educated version of you<\/a>\u00a0to turn it down.<\/p>\n Saying no to anything that is not what you want means that you know you deserve to have what you truly desire. In order to heal your heart and move on you must stay the course to say, \u201cNo,\u201d and to look for a new way to select a mate.<\/p>\n We want you to know that you can stumble, and you can hit that repeat button again and again and you\u2019ll still get another chance. As a matter of fact, if you don\u2019t believe us and you go back to Mr. Unavailable yet again this article will still be here. And we\u2019ll still be here because at any point you can decide to evolve past what is familiar so you can create what is in your true heart\u2019s desire.<\/p>\n You\u2019ll always have another opportunity to grow towards your beloved. Your beloved is the man who will stand by you no matter what, the one who you can count on as sure as you know the sun will rise tomorrow, the one you\u2019re hot for and he\u2019s also hot for you.<\/p>\n\n
Allow Your Feelings To Flow Through You<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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Kill The Hope That This Guy Will Become The One For You<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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Forgive Him, Forgive Yourself, And Get The Learning From The Experience<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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What Are The Goodies You Get From This Unhealthy Pattern?<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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Get Clarity Before Rushing Into Another Relationship<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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Say No To Anything That Doesn\u2019t Align With Your Vision<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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