You may secretly be hoping that your Mr. or Mrs. Right will come along and melt the walls around your heart, but let\u2019s get real, that\u2019s not going to happen. That would be the equivalent of being a princess locked in a tower expecting the handsome prince to cross the alligator filled moat and scale the walls to free you from the castle tower.<\/p>\n
Let\u2019s bring you back into the modern world to see how your cynicism is keeping you stuck and frustrated with your love life.<\/p>\n As a cynic, you\u2019ll be less likely to meet new people because you\u2019re not open to new experiences. Meeting new people is essential in\u00a0the dating process<\/a>\u00a0and sometimes just breaking out of your routine is required.<\/p>\n When you\u2019re cynical you find yourself saying \u201cNo\u201d to new experiences.<\/p>\n Why go to that party if you\u2019re not going to meet anyone worth talking to? Thinking you\u2019d better avoid online dating and dating apps. They\u2019re full of fake people and scammers, right? It\u2019s better to just stay home and binge another TV show, that way if you\u2019re disappointed with the show you can move on and find something else to distract your aching heart.<\/p>\n It\u2019s been long said that if you want something you\u2019ve never had, you have to do something you\u2019ve never done. If lasting love has eluded you thus far,\u00a0staying open to new experiences<\/a>\u00a0is essential.<\/p>\n It\u2019ll take effort to break out of your old patterns. The key is to take a risk but keep your expectations simple. You\u2019re not going to meet your soulmate the first week you download Bumble. It\u2019s going to take a little time, and you\u2019re going to need to upgrade your dating strategies.<\/p>\n But if you don\u2019t want to spend your life as a cynical person, then the effort will have been worth it.<\/p>\n Do you ever find yourself making blanket statements about men as if all men or women are basically the same? Maybe you spend time with your friends sharing your dating horror stories, convincing each other that it\u2019s all just a waste of time.<\/p>\n A cynical person is suspicious and jaded against the opposite sex. If you think that all men only want sex, or all women are looking for a free meal then you\u2019re just creating limiting beliefs that are keeping you single.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t judge all members of the opposite sex just because\u00a0you\u2019ve met a few losers<\/a>. A good man or a good woman is not a unicorn so stop expecting that you have to meet a mythical creature to find lasting love. Instead, take note of positive qualities that the people you meet have. Realize that most people don\u2019t have a dating coach and are using dating strategies they learned when they were just teenagers.<\/p>\n This doesn\u2019t mean that you excuse bad behavior, or give a stranger the benefit of the doubt. It means that you approach dating with an open heart and an open mind, curious to meet a new person. Keeping your expectations in check and allowing yourself to discover this new person.<\/p>\n As you age it makes sense that the shiny finish of idealism will wear off, or crack. Don\u2019t put your heart on the line with every person that comes by. Instead, you must utilize discernment to decide whether or not to be open, rather than being suspicious of an entire gender.<\/p>\n Part of the joy of romantic love is feeling a\u00a0deep emotional connection to another person<\/a>. The cynic is incapable of this experience because they can never be satisfied.<\/p>\n If you have a list of criteria that no person can live up to, then you won\u2019t meet anyone worth dating. Finding fault with every person you go out with is an excellent strategy for never having to risk your heart.<\/p>\n Just because you don\u2019t see everything you\u2019re looking for in someone\u2019s profile or they list a hobby you don\u2019t enjoy, doesn\u2019t mean that you can\u2019t create a connection with them or share coffee for a first meet. You aren\u2019t looking for an opposite-sex version of yourself, nor are you looking for someone who embodies some unattainable list you\u2019ve created.<\/p>\n You\u2019re looking for someone who you\u2019re attracted to who shares your values. Someone willing to do what it takes to make a relationship work. There are plenty of people who fit this description. Letting your guard down so you can meet them is essential.<\/p>\n Plus, someone who is interested in a relationship with you will want to you be interested in them as well. If you can\u2019t be satisfied, then no one will ever satisfy you.<\/p>\n You can\u2019t create the opposite of what you don\u2019t want. Manifesting 101 teaches that you have to get clear on\u00a0what you really want<\/a>\u00a0and what inspires you.<\/p>\n If you are feeling cynical about love it\u2019ll be difficult to know what inspires you.<\/p>\n Knowing what you don\u2019t want keeps your focus on the negative and only draws in more of what you dislike. Certainly, you want to avoid dating addicts or narcissists and probably should know the warning signs if this is an issue for you.<\/p>\n Putting your attention on what you want to avoid forces you to focus on what you don\u2019t want.\u00a0The more emotional energy you put towards avoiding certain types of people, the more you\u2019ll fixate on those types of people. What you focus on grows, so don\u2019t put your attention toward avoiding the pain of the past.<\/p>\n Think about the people you know who are always focused on the negative. Are they happy? Are they successful? Success in life and love requires that you put your energy toward what inspires you and brings you joy.<\/p>\n Openness and curiosity are attractive qualities. When you are feeling cynical you aren\u2019t open or curious. Instead,\u00a0you\u2019re stuck in judgment<\/a>\u00a0and skepticism.<\/p>\n You can\u2019t enjoy yourself when you\u2019re stuck in judgment. And you\u2019re certainly not very fun to be around. The truth is all judgment is self-judgment. And when you\u2019re cynical about love, you\u2019re actually judging your inability to make love last.<\/p>\n Open to compassion for yourself and the fact that\u00a0you\u2019ve had disappointments in love<\/a>. Allow yourself to grieve the past and learn to let it go. Using your past disappointments as proof that love isn\u2019t in the cards for you creates a self-fulfilling prophecy.<\/p>\n Embrace a little positivity. Look for the good that exists around you. Put your focus on couples who are happy so that you can rekindle your hope. Allow their love to be proof for you that love is possible for you too.<\/p>\n Sarcasm is the language of cynics \u2013 and\u00a0sincerity is the language of lovers. Sarcasm and joking allow you to speak your truth while hiding under the cover of a \u201cjoke\u201d when your truth is rejected.<\/p>\n Intimacy requires sincerity and authenticity. That\u2019s how you connect to another human being. When you\u2019re being sarcastic, you can\u2019t connect with others. You won\u2019t feel seen or understood. Instead, you\u2019ll set yourself apart from others and feel even more disconnected.<\/p>\n To feel seen, understood, and ultimately accepted by another person you\u2019ll need to speak your authentic truth. When you\u2019re authentic and that person responds in kind then you\u2019ve created a true connection. This is the real intimacy that the romantic in you desires, and there is no better feeling in this life.<\/p>\n Ultimately cynicism is a strategy for\u00a0protecting yourself from further disappointment<\/a>. You\u2019re attempting to cover the hurt that things haven\u2019t worked out the way you\u2019d hoped. And while your heart may be protected from feeling any further disappointment, you\u2019re also preventing yourself from experiencing love and connection with another person.<\/p>\n Love requires that you open your heart and take a risk. You may experience more setbacks on your journey to love, but these are temporary. Just because it hasn\u2019t worked out for you doesn\u2019t mean that you\u2019re cursed. It just means that you need a new approach to love and perhaps some support to shed your limiting beliefs that have kept you stuck.<\/p>\n You can\u2019t protect yourself from heartache, but you can set yourself up for success. If you are interested in exploring a new way to create the love you want, then join us for a complimentary\u00a0Soulmate Strategy Call<\/a>. We\u2019ll share how you can approach love with a whole new strategy that actually has proven results.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" It\u2019s been said that inside every cynical person is a […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":4472,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[3],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2976","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-blocks-to-love"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.loveonpurpose.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2976","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.loveonpurpose.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.loveonpurpose.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.loveonpurpose.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.loveonpurpose.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2976"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.loveonpurpose.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2976\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.loveonpurpose.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/4472"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.loveonpurpose.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2976"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.loveonpurpose.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2976"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.loveonpurpose.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2976"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}7 Ways That Being A Cynical Person Is Keeping You Single<\/h2>\n
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A Cynical Person is Closed Off To New Experiences<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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A Cynical Person Is Jaded Against The Opposite Sex<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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A Cynical Person Can Never Be Satisfied<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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A Cynical Person Is Focused On What They Don\u2019t Want<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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A Cynical Person Pushes Away Positive People And Positive Experiences<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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A Cynical Person Is Unable To Be Sincere<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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A Cynical Person Is Trying To Protect Their Heart<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n