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Tell Him What Will Make You Happy<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
Your man wants you to be happy and he wants to be the source of your happiness. Tell him what you want. Don\u2019t keep your desires a secret.<\/p>\n
It may seem like it\u2019s more romantic for him to just \u201cknow\u201d what you want, but that\u2019s a recipe for disappointment. Attraction and even deep love don\u2019t come with mind-reading powers. Tell him. You\u2019ll get what you want, and he\u2019ll feel good about himself because he can deliver what you want and please you.<\/p>\n
There was a best-selling book a few years ago called,\u00a0\u201cWhy Men Love Bitches.\u201d<\/a>\u00a0A more accurate title could have been, \u201cWhy Men Love Women Who Know What They Want And Ask For It,\u201d but it isn\u2019t as catchy of a title. Love your man by asking for what you want, and he\u2019ll love you back by giving it to you.<\/p>\n
How to love a man so he sticks around? Tell him how to please you.<\/p>\n
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Acknowledge And Appreciate Him<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
When your man gives you what you asked for, acknowledge and appreciate his actions. This is the fuel a man runs on in a relationship. He doesn\u2019t need you to reciprocate but he does need to feel appreciated.<\/p>\n
Many divorced men<\/a>\u00a0we\u2019ve spoken to have shared with us that they never felt appreciated by their wives. Instead, they felt like nothing they did was ever good enough. A man who doesn\u2019t feel like he can win with you will begin to feel demoralized and eventually give up trying.<\/p>\n
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Let Him Know That His Efforts Count<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
Just because you\u2019ve told your man what you want doesn\u2019t mean that he\u2019s always going to get it exactly right. The key is whether he\u2019s making an effort. If he\u2019s trying to make the changes you\u2019re asking for, let him know that his efforts count.<\/p>\n
Behavioral change is not always easy<\/a>. Your habitual behaviors aren\u2019t going anywhere without some conscious effort. Encourage your man instead of criticizing him and he\u2019ll make the effort to step up for you.<\/p>\n
If you\u2019re frustrated or disappointed with him, don\u2019t demean him. See if you can have a productive discussion about your expectations and allow him input into how your expectations can be met.<\/p>\n
How to love a man so that he keeps working to make you happy? Let him know that his efforts to change are just as important as his actually changing.<\/p>\n
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Give Him Space<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
Maybe he needs guy time, or he likes to hibernate in his man cave. However your guy recharges, give him the space to do it. Very few relationships function well when the expectation is that\u00a0the two of you should do everything together.<\/a><\/p>\n
If you respect his need for space, he\u2019ll be more present with you when you\u2019re together. Men need time to recharge and time spent alone tinkering on a computer or in a workshop allows them to reconnect with themselves and produce testosterone.<\/p>\n
The same applies to giving a man space to make up his mind. Let him know what you want and give him some time to think about it. He\u2019ll be more likely to come around if you let him decide for himself than if you keep trying to convince him.<\/p>\n
How to love a man so he feels respected? Give him space to recharge and to make up his own mind without pressure.<\/p>\n
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Take Him At His Word<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
Most men are pretty upfront about\u00a0who they are and what they want<\/a>. If a man tells you what\u2019s important to him, believe him. Avoid the urge to read into his actions or to make assumptions about what you think he wants.<\/p>\n
Where a man spends his resources (his time, energy, and money) tells you what\u2019s important to him. In general, men don\u2019t send subtle clues. What you see is what you get.<\/p>\n
How to love a man so that he knows you understand him? Take him at his word and respond accordingly.<\/p>\n
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Discover What Makes Him Feel Loved<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
Just because you love gifts and being told, \u201cI love you\u201d doesn\u2019t mean that\u2019s what makes your man feel loved by you. Take time to discover what makes him feel loved.<\/p>\n
The old adage of, \u201cloving someone the way you want to be loved\u201d should actually be \u201clove someone the way they want to be loved.\u201d<\/p>\n
Most people give love the way they want to receive it. Notice how he\u2019s showing you that he loves you. That\u2019ll give you a clue of what he wants from you. You could also both take\u00a0the 5 Love Languages Quiz<\/a>\u00a0and have fun sharing your results.<\/p>\n
How to love a man so that he truly feels loved by you? Discover what makes him feel loved and deliver what he needs.<\/p>\n
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Don\u2019t Treat Him Like Your Girlfriend<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
When you share a story with your girlfriend you give her all the details and the play-by-play because that\u2019s what she wants to hear. A man won\u2019t know what to do with all that information. He wants to help you, but his eyes will glaze over if you give him every single detail.<\/p>\n
<\/div><\/a>\r\n\r\n\r\n\nWhen you need to vent or are looking for a receptive ear, your girlfriends are a great resource. Your man isn\u2019t going to interact with you like your female friends. He wants you to get to the point and let him know how he can help. He\u2019s not interested in hearing every plot point along the way.<\/p>\n
If you\u2019re coming together after a long day apart, give him time to recharge before sharing your day with him. And let him know that you aren\u2019t looking for his advice, that you\u2019d feel better just knowing that he heard you. Better yet, call a girlfriend while he\u2019s recharging and re-hash your day with her. Then\u00a0you and your man can connect in a more meaningful way<\/a>\u00a0later on.<\/p>\n
How to love a man so that he doesn\u2019t go into overwhelm? Share the details of your day with a girlfriend and make a direct request to your man.<\/p>\n
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Get A Status Update On His \u201cHoney Do List\u201d<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
You want your man to take care of projects that are important to you, but don\u2019t want to be a nag? A great communication tool for reminding him is to ask him for a status update.<\/p>\n
\u201cCan I get a status update on the bedroom getting painted?\u201d This is a much more effective way of finding out where he is than asking him, \u201cWhy haven\u2019t you painted the bedroom yet?\u201d When you ask for a status update you give him the opportunity to share what he\u2019s gotten done and what he still needs to take care of. It also reminds him of the project without putting him on the spot.<\/p>\n
How to love a man without nagging him? Ask him for a status update on his to-do list.<\/p>\n
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Give Him The Time To Express His Thoughts And Feelings<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
Most men know what they think<\/a>\u00a0about a situation, but they don\u2019t always know how they feel about it. And even if they know their thoughts, they may take time to find a way to express them.<\/p>\n
Give him time to express himself instead of jumping in and sharing your thoughts and feelings so quickly. He may not be as quick to find the words to express what\u2019s going on. Be careful of the desire to fill in the blanks. If he feels safe expressing himself with you then he\u2019ll gradually open up even more.<\/p>\n
How to love a man so he feels like he can open up to you? Give him some time to formulate his thoughts instead of jumping in as soon as there is a pause. You\u2019ll find out a lot more about him if you let him stammer through and find the words to express himself.<\/p>\n
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Be His Lover Not His Mother<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
Most men like to be nurtured but that doesn\u2019t mean that you want him to rely on you for everything. You\u2019re not his mother reminding him to clean up after himself or making sure he wears a jacket when he goes out.<\/p>\n
He\u2019s a grown man. He can take care of himself. You can show him your nurturing side but don\u2019t mother him or treat him like a child. This will kill the romance between you.<\/p>\n
Flirt with him. Complement him.\u00a0Let him know you still find him attractive<\/a>. And leave the mothering for when he\u2019s sick or feeling down.<\/p>\n
How to love a man so that he still has the hots for you? Leave the mothering to his mother and focus on being his lover.<\/p>\n
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Give Him The Benefit Of The Doubt<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
Too many women give a man the benefit of the doubt from the first date when they feel chemistry and attraction. It\u2019s better to wait until you get to know him. First discover who he is and what he values before you give him the benefit of the doubt.<\/p>\n
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