{"id":3036,"date":"2024-04-15T08:13:27","date_gmt":"2024-04-15T15:13:27","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.creatingloveonpurpose.com\/?p=3036"},"modified":"2024-04-15T11:59:40","modified_gmt":"2024-04-15T18:59:40","slug":"what-is-real-love-like-when-two-people-are-actually-honest-about-everything","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.loveonpurpose.com\/what-is-real-love-like-when-two-people-are-actually-honest-about-everything\/","title":{"rendered":"What Is Real Love Like When Two People Are Actually Honest About Everything?"},"content":{"rendered":"

What is real love like? When you ponder this question what comes to mind? A scene from a romantic movie? A wedding? A scene from your life? Do you still believe in real love?<\/p>\n

Real love stands the test of time. It\u2019s when two people accept one another warts and all and commit to a life together. Real love is when they weather the storms together and enjoy the tranquility of the good times.<\/p>\n

In order for real love to flourish both people have to be brave enough to be themselves. So ultimately,\u00a0real love is when two people share all of who they are<\/a>\u00a0with each other and continue to evolve and grow together rather than apart.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s What Real Love Is Like When Two People Are Actually Honest About Everything<\/h2>\n
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    You Know What Makes Each Other Feel Loved<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    When you don\u2019t feel well do you like to be left alone? Or do you want to be pampered and taken care of? Most people treat their partner the way they want to be treated, instead of finding out what their partner needs from them. You may even find yourself arguing with your partner about what he\/she really needs from you.<\/p>\n

    Be honest about what you need and ask for it. Be willing to give your partner what they want and need. As long as your needs aren\u2019t in conflict it should be easy to assure each other that you\u2019re loved and cared for.<\/p>\n

    If your needs are in conflict work together to create a win-win so that both of you get what you want. This may take a little more effort and creativity, but it is most definitely worth it. Constantly compromising with each other is the death of passion, so you\u2019ll want to limit meeting in the mediocre middle.<\/p>\n

    Maybe you like to receive gifts, but he expresses his love through physical touch<\/a>. Or maybe she wants to hear how much you love her, but it\u2019s much easier for you to fix things around the house to show your love.<\/p>\n

    Know what makes you feel loved\u00a0and ask for it from your partner. Also, be curious about how your partner feels loved and be generous in giving them what they actually need.<\/p>\n

    What is real love like when you\u2019re honest about your wants and needs? You both get to feel loved and share that love with each other.<\/p>\n

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      You Take Responsibility For Your Words & Actions<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

      One of the most important tools for a healthy relationship is understanding the responsibility equation: \u201cWhen someone has a problem with you, it is their problem. When you have a problem with someone now it is your problem.\u201d<\/p>\n

      Are you taking responsibility for your partner\u2019s mood or behavior? Do you blame others when you make a mistake or don\u2019t behave well?<\/p>\n

      In order to be honest in your relationship, you must first be honest with yourself.\u00a0Know your triggers<\/a> and wounds as well as your strategies for giving and receiving love. All the sages say, \u201cKnow thyself.\u201d This is poignantly true when it comes to creating real love.<\/p>\n

      Creating healthy boundaries means that you don\u2019t take responsibility for what doesn\u2019t belong to you. Your partner\u2019s moods and actions are not your own \u2014 never treat them as such. By keeping a healthy boundary you can have space for your relationship to blossom and thrive.<\/p>\n

      What is real love like when you\u2019re honest about your feelings and strategies? You learn to take responsibility for your own behavior as well as create a healthy boundary with your partner that fosters respect and longevity.<\/p>\n

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        You Create Connection \u2014 Even During Conflict<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

        Why are people so drawn to creating intimate relationships? Because connection is a basic human need, every person wants to feel loved, approved, and accepted. You want another person to get you and understand you. Most of all you want to belong and know that your partner has your back.<\/p>\n

        You create connection through authenticity. Being authentic means you\u2019re sharing your experience: your emotions, thoughts, ideas, and even your fears.<\/p>\n

        Allowing yourself to be fully seen requires some courage and most of all some practice. Particularly when there\u2019s conflict.<\/p>\n

        Many conflicts happen when one or both of you aren\u2019t connected to yourself and therefore each other. The good news is that\u00a0conflict shows up to bring the two of you closer together<\/a>. By sharing your feelings and being honest and authentic about what\u2019s going on with you, you\u2019re able to create an invitation for your partner to share their truth.<\/p>\n

        Connection doesn\u2019t require that the two of you agree. It does require that you are authentic and that you allow yourself to see your partner\u2019s point of view.<\/p>\n

        What is real love like when you are authentic even in an argument? You get to create an even deeper connection between you.<\/p>\n

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          You Feel Compassion For Each Other<\/strong><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

          Judgment is the biggest block to lasting love. When you\u2019re judging your partner\u2019s thoughts, feelings, or actions you\u2019re creating a wall between you.<\/p>\n

          The only way to release judgment is to discover compassion for your partner\u2019s behavior. Everyone is doing the best they can with the resources they have. If you or your partner is not feeling very resourceful then you won\u2019t have the best strategies.<\/p>\n

          Give yourself and your partner some grace. Life can be difficult at times and during these challenges\u00a0you may not always make the best choices<\/a>. Have compassion for your own bad strategies and work to develop better ones over time.<\/p>\n

          Just remember that changing behavior requires practice so don\u2019t expect perfection right away. Effort counts for both you and your partner.<\/p>\n

          What is real love like when you\u2019re compassionate with each other? You extend grace to you and your partner so you don\u2019t build up resentment.<\/p>\n

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            You Clean Up Your Messes As You Go<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

            Avoiding conflict will never deepen the connection between you and your partner. Conflicts and disagreements show up in every relationship. Part of being human is to accept that you will get triggered. Accept your humanness by being okay with your imperfections.<\/p>\n

            Problems that are avoided become bigger issues over time. The little annoyances grow into significant frustrations that can eventually erupt into\u00a0even major conflicts<\/a>. Don\u2019t be like a volcano bottling up your feelings until you can\u2019t contain the pressure any longer only to spew lava all over the place.<\/p>\n

            Release the pressure by sharing your feelings and expressing your truth. When an issue arises between the two of you clean it up as quickly as possible. Say what you need to say and then let it go.<\/p>\n

            What is real love like when you\u2019re honest about the little things? You move quickly through disagreements and spend more time feeling valued.<\/p>\n

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              You Discover Your Shared Dreams, Values, And Goals<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

              It isn\u2019t just common interests that create a lasting bond. Love doesn\u2019t last because of chemistry and attraction alone. Love lasts because you\u2019re on the same page. You want the same things from life. You may have different strategies for getting there, but you know the two of you are rowing the boat in the same direction.<\/p>\n

              Having shared dreams, values, and goals is\u00a0the glue that makes love last<\/a>\u00a0through trying times. You won\u2019t discover shared values by just having conversations about what\u2019s important to each of you. You discover your partner\u2019s values over time by seeing how they spends their resources \u2014 time, energy, and money.<\/p>\n

              What is real love like when you\u2019re honest about what you value? You know you\u2019ll share what it takes to make your love last.<\/p>\n

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                You Have A Commitment To Healing And Growing Old Together<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                A healthy relationship grows stronger with age. Couples who grow apart do so because they don\u2019t make the relationship a priority. They harbor resentments instead of mastering the uncomfortable conversation.<\/p>\n<\/a>\r\n\r\n\r\n\n

                When you\u2019re honest about everything you have an opportunity to heal one another\u2019s wounds. With healing you\u2019ll grow closer,\u00a0your love will grow deeper<\/a>, and you\u2019ll create the fuel to make sure your love lasts.<\/p>\n

                You aren\u2019t responsible for your partner\u2019s healing nor is your partner responsible for yours. However, you can create an environment where you learn to love and accept each other exactly as you are, not expecting or needing each other to change. This level of acceptance is one of the most healing experiences you can ever have.<\/p>\n

                What is real love like when you make the relationship a priority? Your love ages like a fine wine and stands the test of time.<\/p>\n

                When the two of you are honest about everything you create an environment of openness and trust that enriches your life and your relationship. Avoid the trap of growing apart or evolving in different directions by sharing your truth and by being curious about your partner. Your reward will be a deep lasting love that will grow even better over time.<\/p>\n

                Are you stuck in a power struggle with your partner? Struggling to get your needs met? If you desire openness, trust, and a stronger connection with your partner, download our special report,\u00a0The 5 Stages of Relationship<\/a>\u00a0and you\u2019ll discover the natural course every intimate relationship goes through. Find out how you can make honesty and authenticity the keys to creating the long-lasting, soul-satisfying love you desire.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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