{"id":3091,"date":"2022-08-01T01:06:27","date_gmt":"2022-08-01T08:06:27","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.creatingloveonpurpose.com\/?p=3091"},"modified":"2022-11-02T08:46:16","modified_gmt":"2022-11-02T15:46:16","slug":"common-sense-questions-to-get-to-know-someone","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.loveonpurpose.com\/common-sense-questions-to-get-to-know-someone\/","title":{"rendered":"25 Common Sense Questions To Get To Know Someone At A Deep, Soul Level"},"content":{"rendered":"

One of the most enjoyable parts of dating is getting to know someone new and discovering what makes them tick. Asking the right questions to get to know someone can reveal who they are at a soul level, as well as if they are a potential match for you.<\/p>\n

The standby of swapping online dating horror or hilarious stories is not an ideal way to connect with someone new. Sharing these experiences doesn\u2019t give you any information about them. Instead, you\u2019ll want to discover what their dreams and goals are, and the kind of lifestyle they are looking to create with their ideal mate.<\/p>\n

Most people do not enjoy dating.\u00a0A recent survey conducted<\/a>\u00a0by Style in The Times of London concluded that less than half of women like dating and barely half of men do. Keeping an open mind about meeting new people and releasing unrealistic expectations will help. Having a strategy and the right questions to get to know someone new can take your dating game to a whole new level.<\/p>\n

If you want to make a connection with someone you\u2019ve just met, avoid small talk and discussing likes and dislikes. Keeping things on a superficial level isn\u2019t going to create the connection you\u2019re looking for.<\/p>\n

Ask questions that are revealing and either create rapport or give you the information you need to deselect the person who is not a good match. Questions about their job or their past dating experiences aren\u2019t going to reveal much about the important things and will keep the two of you from getting to really know each other.<\/p>\n

When you want to get to know someone at a deep level, ask questions that engage and draw the person out, even those who may be feeling nervous or shy. It also helps to take the focus off you and your critical inner dialog, easing your own nerves as well. A bonus is that people are attracted to the person who is interested and curious about them.<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s look at some common pitfalls and how to replace them with common sense questions to get to know someone and\u00a0make your first few dates<\/a>\u00a0a lot more interesting.<\/p>\n

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Keep Your Focus On Being Curious Instead Of Evaluating Your Date<\/h3>\n

Sometimes dating can feel like an exercise in sifting through all the \u201cwrongs\u201d hoping to find your \u201cMr.\/Mrs. Right.\u201d Instead, adjust your approach from looking for reasons to deselect the person in front of you, to being curious about this stranger you just met.<\/p>\n

Asking questions to evaluate your date can leave the encounter feeling like a job interview. A date isn\u2019t as simple as a pass or fail grade. Staying open and interested in what makes them tick will keep you from getting bored when you are on a date with someone you don\u2019t easily connect with.<\/p>\n

Dating doesn\u2019t have to be a chore.<\/a>\u00a0It can be a great exercise in discovering about people as well as yourself.<\/p>\n

Become a master at asking thoughtful questions and avoiding simple ones that can easily be answered with a \u201cyes\u201d or \u201cno\u201d response that doesn\u2019t leave space for your date to elaborate.<\/p>\n

When asking questions to get to know someone, keep your questions open-ended and memorize this phrase to get them to open up, \u201cTell me more\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t Try To Cover All Of Your Bases<\/h3>\n

You\u2019re not looking for questions that will reveal the secret narcissist inside or make sure that the two of you are on the same page about all the issues that are important to you. Trying to cover all your bases to\u00a0avoid being hurt again<\/a>\u00a0is moot. As there are no guarantees, love and dating come with some risk. You\u2019ll want to keep a positive mindset while also holding on to a healthy dose of skepticism.<\/p>\n

Dating while also trying to protect your heart ultimately leaves you closed off from creating the connection you are looking for. People are varied and complex and it takes time to really get to know a stranger. Take your time before investing your heart.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t want to present your date with a series of hypothetical situations to see how they might respond. You\u2019re not going to discover if you are a good match by asking, \u201cIf the two of us were in a disagreement about how much money to spend on our vacation, how would you try to find a compromise?\u201d<\/p>\n

When asking questions to get to know someone, be sure you\u2019re not facilitating a pop-quiz. Instead, look for ways to connect with someone you\u2019re just getting to know.<\/p>\n

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Asking Direct Questions About What Is Important May Not Reveal What You Hope<\/h3>\n

Asking someone, \u201cDo you value honesty?\u201d isn\u2019t going to reveal if they have the potential to lie to you or cheat on you. No one would ever answer, \u201cNo, I don\u2019t. In fact, I\u2019ve been lying to you all night.\u201d<\/p>\n

Ultimately this is another form of testing and evaluating your date to avoid getting hurt. You are not choosing to spend your life with someone after a first, second, or third date. You really shouldn\u2019t even consider going exclusive until you\u2019ve been dating for a few months.<\/p>\n

Rushing into exclusivity because\u00a0you don\u2019t like dating<\/a>, or because you are afraid he or she will move on to someone else, will cause you to invest your heart in a stranger. Never put your lovability in the hands of someone you do not know.<\/p>\n

When asking questions to get to know someone, the most important thing is to have fun and simply discover a connection point. All you need is one arena the two of you connect on and then build from there.<\/p>\n

Talk Across The Brain In Order To Be Understood<\/h3>\n

While men and women do deserve to be equal, it doesn\u2019t mean they are the same. Masculine energy and feminine energy function differently and it is essential to\u00a0understand these differences<\/a>\u00a0in order to create connection in the early part of the dating process.<\/p>\n

Women are generally more in touch with their feelings while men are usually more connected to their ideas and opinions. To speak to someone\u2019s feminine side ask, \u201cHow do you feel about\u2026?\u201d To speak more to the masculine, ask, \u201cWhat do you think about\u2026?\u201d<\/p>\n

You will discover more about your date by utilizing language that speaks to their dominant style.<\/p>\n

When asking questions to get to know someone, talk across the brain to make them more comfortable and create rapport.<\/p>\n<\/a>\r\n\r\n\r\n\n

Focus On Dreams And Goals Instead Of Likes And Dislikes<\/h3>\n

You may find a connection over a favorite movie, book, or musician, but if you want to connect on a deeper level see if you can bond over common dreams and goals. There is no guarantee that you\u2019ll feel attracted to a person just because you share the same taste in hobbies and entertainment.<\/p>\n

Attraction is born from your differences<\/a>\u00a0and the polarity between the two of you.<\/p>\n

Instead, ask about your date\u2019s dreams, goals, and visions for their future. That way you can see if the two of you share values and perspectives about what is important in life.<\/p>\n

Sharing values is a much better indicator of long-term compatibility than similar interests. Looking for a person of character may simply mean you\u2019ve connected with a platonic friend who is a good person. You\u2019ll want the spark of chemistry to be present, but it isn\u2019t the only ingredient for long-lasting love.<\/p>\n

When asking questions to get to know someone, focus on the bigger picture in the future. You\u2019ll have plenty of time to see if you share interests as you get to know each other.<\/p>\n

25 Common Sense Questions To Get To Know Someone At A Deep, Soul Level<\/h3>\n
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  1. What did you learn about\u2026?<\/li>\n
  2. What do you like most about\u2026?<\/li>\n
  3. What is your vision for your life in the next few years?<\/li>\n
  4. What would you like to accomplish in your life?<\/li>\n
  5. What are you excited about most in your life right now?<\/li>\n
  6. What drew you to the work that you do?<\/li>\n
  7. What would you be doing if your budget wasn\u2019t an issue?<\/li>\n
  8. How much time do you spend with your family?<\/li>\n
  9. Who is your celebrity crush?<\/li>\n
  10. What is something you\u2019ve learned about love?<\/li>\n
  11. What do you like to do with your friends?<\/li>\n
  12. What are you most proud of and why?<\/li>\n
  13. Where is your happy place?<\/li>\n
  14. What brings you peace? Excitement? Joy?<\/li>\n
  15. What\u2019s something that\u2019s on your bucket list?<\/li>\n
  16. What do you like\/dislike about where you grew up?<\/li>\n
  17. What would be your superpower if you had one?<\/li>\n
  18. What regrets do you have about your life?<\/li>\n
  19. Who is someone that has inspired you?<\/li>\n
  20. What\u2019s something you discovered that changed your life?<\/li>\n
  21. What event has had the most profound impact on who you are today?<\/li>\n
  22. What is one of your favorite memories?<\/li>\n
  23. What is your idea of a perfect date?<\/li>\n
  24. What brings you the feeling of being loved?<\/li>\n
  25. What are some of your personal life goals?<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Instead of dating like a job interview, be open and curious, and ask questions to get to know someone that will help you create rapport and a connection point. Even if your date doesn\u2019t turn out to be your soulmate, you\u2019ll have spent meaningful time with another human being, which is always worthwhile.<\/p>\n

    Remember, every person you meet knows people you have never met. You never know who the person will be that could introduce you to your beloved.<\/p>\n

    If you are struggling to create a connection while dating or falling into apathy, we are here to support you on your path to long-lasting, soul-satisfying love. The truth is, if you knew how to do this on your own you wouldn\u2019t be struggling just to find people to date.<\/p>\n

    We can assure you that it\u2019s not your age or where you live that is the problem (we have busted this false belief with literally thousands of clients around the globe). Want to learn the real reason why your dates are not working out? Give us 3 minutes and watch this short video\u00a0by clicking here<\/a>.<\/p>\n

    You\u2019ll be surprised at how quickly you can turn your love life around.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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