\u201cLove doesn\u2019t last.\u201d <\/em><\/p>\n \u201cTrue love is just a fantasy.” <\/em><\/p>\n Limiting beliefs get in the way of staying positive and motivated about love and dating and deflate your resiliency in love. They create self-sabotage and stop you from reaching your goal. Ultimately, they leave you feeling hopeless and frustrated about the possibility of ever\u00a0finding \u201cThe One.\u201d<\/a><\/p>\n The truth about love is that it\u2019s always available to you. Love can be easy while at the same time requiring effort to bring it in and make it last. Long-lasting love with your soulmate can be one of the most satisfying and fulfilling accomplishments in your life, it\u2019s no different than working toward higher education or a fulfilling career \u2014 no matter the effort it will be worth it.<\/p>\n One of the most deceptive limiting beliefs about love is that it will happen when you least expect it. The belief that love just happens or doesn\u2019t happen can leave you feeling powerless against a fate that is beyond your control.<\/p>\n Love is not some outside force that is beyond your control or your free will choice. Creating a lasting loving partnership works the same way as accomplishing any goal you may have. You\u2019ll need to be educated, develop the skills you need to achieve your goal and practice them, and then take actions toward your goal.<\/p>\n If your beliefs about love oppose your desire to create love, then your limiting beliefs are blocks to love. Your insidious limiting beliefs give you the impression it\u2019s impossible or improbable that you\u2019ll ever find the lasting love you desire.<\/p>\n In order to reclaim your power identify your limiting beliefs about love and dating, and \u00a0only then you can begin the process of transforming them.<\/p>\n (feel free to add your unique limiting beliefs to this list)<\/p>\n It\u2019s impossible to change a problem you\u2019re unable to recognize. Your struggles to create lasting love won\u2019t just magically disappear when you meet a mystical \u201cright\u201d person. Your desire for love must be stronger than the attachment to your limiting beliefs.<\/p>\n Making an effort to\u00a0identify your limiting beliefs<\/a>\u00a0allows you to be in the driver\u2019s seat to change them. Just like getting into the driver\u2019s seat of a car, you haven\u2019t driven anywhere yet. The seat of awareness is the same thing. It puts you in the driver\u2019s seat to create the changes you desire.<\/p>\n Now that you\u2019ve identified your list of limiting beliefs, you\u2019ve put yourself in the driver\u2019s seat to make changes.<\/p>\n Rev your engines and get ready to go\u2026<\/p>\n Your core beliefs about love were formed\u00a0in your early childhood<\/a>. The experiences you\u2019ve had with love as an adult have added color to your beliefs, but it\u2019s your interpretation and meaning you assigned to the events in your family of origin that established the foundation of how you view romantic relationships.<\/p>\n Just like you learned to walk and talk in your family of origin, you also learned about love and relationships.<\/p>\n You could say that your beliefs shape your experiences. For example, if you believe that you aren\u2019t worthy of love you\u2019ll find yourself attracted to people who don\u2019t value you. You\u2019ll also reject love from someone who thinks you\u2019re amazing as it won\u2019t fit with your internal narrative of what you believe to be true about you.<\/p>\n It\u2019s your emotional attachment to those childhood beliefs that keep you stuck in a cyclical negative pattern. You can\u2019t change the events of the past, but it\u2019s possible to change the meaning that you assigned to them.<\/p>\n Changing the meaning of your past experiences will turn apathy into hope allowing you to feel more resourceful about love and dating. Imagine busting through your limiting beliefs so you feel excited to date and discover about yourself through the dating process!<\/p>\n If you\u2019re looking at your past experiences for clues about your future, you run the risk of repeating the past over and over again. For example, if\u00a0you dated someone who cheated on you<\/a> doesn\u2019t mean that you are destined to only date cheaters in the future.<\/p>\n You can change your negative patterns and create a new future for yourself once you overcome your limiting beliefs. Now that you\u2019ve identified the patterns from your past you can adjust your beliefs by acting As If your new beliefs are true. By taking actions that are in alignment with your new beliefs (ones that are in alignment with your desires) you can create long-lasting love with an ideal partner!<\/p>\n If you one of your limiting beliefs shows up again don\u2019t allow it to rule your life. Challenge it. Question it. Cancel it. And most importantly affirm what you want to believe instead.<\/p>\n Whether or not you believe in affirmations, you are affirming your reality all day long with\u00a0your inner dialog<\/a>. Whether you say to yourself, \u201cAll the good ones are taken,\u201d or you say, \u201cLove comes to me easily and effortlessly;\u201d you\u2019ll discover that your experiences reflect your inner dialog along with your beliefs.<\/p>\n If you catch yourself affirming a limiting belief stop yourself and say to aloud, \u201cCancel! Cancel!, Cancel!\u201d Then immediately replace that thought with a more empowering one of your choosing.<\/p>\n Affirm your new belief by repeating it to yourself as you\u2019re doing any mundane task. When you\u2019re working out, doing the dishes, or cleaning your home, repeat a simple phrase like, \u201cI am worth loving.\u201d By linking your affirmation to a daily activity, you\u2019ll anchor it into your subconscious and begin to habitually say it so it runs on auto-pilot.<\/p>\n Your brain will automatically find evidence of your limiting beliefs.<\/p>\n In order to change your beliefs, you have to consciously look for evidence of what you want to create. If you believe that you aren\u2019t attractive enough to be loved, take notice of couples of all shapes and sizes when you\u2019re out in the world.<\/p>\n Say to yourself, \u201cSee, if they can find love so can I.\u201d Find proof in the world that there is\u00a0a lid for every pot<\/a>.<\/p>\n You can find evidence of anything you want to believe about yourself. Consciously make an effort to notice and celebrate when others in the world find love and remind yourself that it is possible for you too.<\/p>\n Are you focused on avoiding cheaters or ensuring you won\u2019t feel rejected? When you put your focus on what you fear, you highlight those situations in your mind. In a sense, you\u2019re telling yourself to notice situations where the fear may be realized in order to avoid it.<\/p>\n This brings\u00a0more experiences of what you do not want<\/a>. By focusing on your fears you\u2019re helping to recreate them.<\/p>\n Instead, put your focus on what inspires you. This doesn\u2019t mean that you should suddenly become delusional and avoid obvious red flags in potential dates. What it means is that you become focused on your vision of the love you desire.<\/p>\n Having a positive and inspiring vision of love will help keep you motivated when you experience setbacks on your journey. Bumps on the road are normal and to be expected. You don\u2019t want those bumps to derail you from your journey.<\/p>\n When you drill down to the root of all of your limiting beliefs, you\u2019ll find that judgment is at the source of each and every one of them. They\u2019re all examples of either self-judgment or judgment of others.<\/p>\n Judgment is the biggest block<\/a>\u00a0to creating lasting love. Judging yourself or someone else creates disconnection. You can\u2019t feel connected to another person when you\u2019re either disconnected from yourself.<\/p>\n Love is based on creating connection. Notice how your voice of judgment gets in the way of you feeling connected to others. It\u2019s not the fault of the outside world that you feel disconnected \u2014 that disconnection lives inside of you.<\/p>\n Work to shift judgment so you can be connected to yourself, then it will be easy to connect to others. Creating connection is natural and necessary for everyone, it\u2019s what your soul yearns for.<\/p>\n Stepping into compassion allows you to release judgment and extend grace to yourself and others. It\u2019s your flaws that ultimately make you lovable. You love someone for their imperfections; it\u2019s their uniqueness that makes them stand out from the crowd.<\/p>\n You will never be perfect<\/a>, nor will you ever find a perfect partner. You\u2019ll create love with someone who is perfect for you. This person will love the weird quirks and idiosyncrasies that others found fault with.<\/p>\n Loving yourself will open up the ability to receive love from someone else. So many people chase rejection because that\u2019s what they feel inside. You don\u2019t have to prove your lovability. You\u2019re lovable just as you are.<\/p>\n You won\u2019t be able to transform all your blocks to love all at once. That is the reason most people fail at their New Year\u2019s resolutions. They try to change everything about their life all at once and set themselves up for disappointment.<\/p>\n Set yourself up for success by taking small steps daily. Choose one limiting belief to change and focus on it until it no longer seems true to you. Then choose another belief to change. Chip away at them as if each one is a different muscle you\u2019re developing.<\/p>\n By committing to minor adjustments on a regular basis you\u2019ll quickly discover that you\u2019ve made major changes to your life in just a few short months.<\/p>\n25 Limiting Beliefs That Interfere With Finding True Love<\/h2>\n
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Get In The Driver\u2019s Seat Before You Can Drive The Car<\/h2>\n
Beliefs Come From Your Past Experiences<\/h2>\n
Your Past Doesn\u2019t Equal Your Future<\/h2>\n
Challenge Your Limiting Beliefs<\/h2>\n
Look For Evidence Of Love All Around You<\/h2>\n
Focus On What Inspires You, Not What You Fear<\/h2>\n
Judgment Is At The Root Of Your Limiting Beliefs<\/h2>\n
Compassion Is The Key To Releasing Judgment<\/h2>\n
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Take Small Steps To Create A Large Change<\/h2>\n