If you take an honest look at what happened in your last relationship, what\u2019s really going on in your new relationship, and are clear on your desires moving forward then the possibility of a lasting relationship can begin as a rebound relationship.<\/p>\n How do you know if your rebound relationship has the potential to last? It depends on how you responded to the end of your most recent relationship.<\/p>\n If you\u2019re clear that your ex wasn\u2019t right for you and it was time to move on your new relationship may have staying power, especially if you\u2019ve been mindful to select them differently from past relationships.<\/p>\n Also, if you initiated the breakup it\u2019s possible this new relationship could be \u201cThe One.\u201d Moving on from\u00a0a relationship that wasn\u2019t right for you<\/a>\u00a0could be the catalyst that cleared the way to your soulmate.<\/p>\n However, it\u2019s different if your last partner initiated the breakup.\u00a0It\u2019s one thing to come to a mutual understanding that the two of you were not a good fit, however, it\u2019s entirely different if you didn\u2019t want the relationship to end, and you weren\u2019t given a choice.<\/p>\n With the latter, rushing into a new relationship may give you a temporary boost to your confidence, but until you heal your heart from the breakup you\u2019re not emotionally available for someone new.<\/p>\n If the rebound relationship is delaying your healing and distracting you from your heartache it likely isn\u2019t an opportunity for a lasting connection.<\/p>\n Were you married for 20 years and the two of you grew apart over time?<\/a> Or did you find out via social media that your significant other wasn\u2019t as significant as you hoped? The level of commitment and time invested in your past relationship, as well as who initiated the breakup influences whether you’re now in a rebound relationship or one that could lead to lasting love.<\/p>\n When you\u2019re in a marriage that deteriorates over time and ends with the two of you married in name only, you’ve probably taken the time to emotionally move on. Many people are officially separated and just haven\u2019t moved forward to a divorce even though their hearts have moved on long ago.<\/p>\n If this is the case, you can likely move forward with your new love without the worry that it\u2019s just a rebound relationship.<\/p>\n The same is true if your relationship with your ex hadn\u2019t moved to a more serious stage yet. If it ended before the two of you really had a chance to become enmeshed in each other\u2019s lives, then you probably aren\u2019t in a rebound relationship either. You\u2019re just moving on to your next relationship.<\/p>\n However, if you were heartbroken by your ex ending the relationship, whether you were married or just dating for a short duration, then you\u2019ll want to take time to acclimate to your single life before jumping back into dating or another committed relationship.<\/p>\n After a breakup it\u2019s appropriate to feel vulnerable and you\u2019ll need time to grieve. Rushing into a new relationship with someone new may exhilarating in the moment, but it\u2019s not a recipe for lasting love.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t start a rebound relationship to feel better after a breakup. You aren\u2019t helping yourself to move forward, and you\u2019re out of integrity with your new partner.<\/p>\n If you\u2019re with someone just so that you don\u2019t have to be\u00a0alone with your feelings<\/a>, then you\u2019re in a rebound relationship. Avoiding heartache does not make it go away. Whether you use alcohol, sex, or any other distraction to avoid your pain, you aren\u2019t helping yourself heal your heart so you can move on and put the past behind you.<\/p>\n Are you constantly thinking about your ex<\/a>\u00a0and going over in your mind what went wrong and wondering why it\u2019s over? Do you talk about your ex with your new love, sharing your hurt and frustration? These are signs that you\u2019re still grieving and shouldn\u2019t be dating or in a relationship.<\/p>\n If you met someone new and they seem like the answer to your prayers, like suddenly all your problems are solved, then you\u2019re in a rebound love relationship. Hoping that any one person is going to be everything for you is an unrealistic expectation. No one is going to save you but yourself.<\/p>\n It feels great to fall in love. Your body is flooded with feel-good chemicals, and everything seems new. Like you\u2019ve never felt this level of euphoria before. If your rebound relationship is obsessive and knocks you off-balance then it probably isn\u2019t something that will last. Watch out for being addicted to falling in love and avoiding the mundane aspects of a long-term relationship (or it might be you that\u2019s emotionally unavailable for long-term love).<\/p>\n Real love is about discovering a new person and getting to know them over time; it\u2019s a process. You accept their flaws as much as their strengths. If you\u2019re more interested in the idea of the person than the actual person then you\u2019re caught in a rebound relationship. When you\u2019re in a rebound love situation you\u2019re too caught up in the fantasy to notice the truth.<\/p>\n If the two of you don\u2019t really talk to each other but\u00a0you can\u2019t wait to take each other\u2019s clothes off,<\/a>\u00a0then you\u2019re definitely in a rebound relationship. It may be a lot of fun but it\u2019s not going to develop into something deeper and you\u2019ll still have to deal with your broken heart. On the other side of this temporary rebound relationship, you may even find you\u2019re becoming bitter and cynical about love.<\/p>\n If your rebound relationship goes from 0 to 100 in just a few days, then you\u2019re probably reacting more to your breakup than to your new love. Healthy relationships take time to develop, and deeper commitments are earned. Real love that lasts doesn\u2019t magically happen between two strangers who barely know each other over a few days. Beware of instant intimacy, it usually means you\u2019re in familiar territory, which means it won\u2019t last.<\/p>\n Most rebound relationships are not a long-term solution, but they can help you move forward on your path to lasting love. If you take an intentional path through a breakup, you can make sure that you don\u2019t continue to repeat your same mistakes.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t mistake a rebound love situation for real lasting love with an ideal partner. Be clear why you\u2019re in a new relationship and pay attention to who this new person really is. Don\u2019t let your mind slant things toward the positive or just go along to get along. Also, avoid using your new love as your therapist and avoid talking about issues with your ex.<\/p>\n Share where you are in the grieving process, but don\u2019t do the grieving with your new prospect. Give this new person\u00a0the respect they deserve<\/a>. If you\u2019re ready for new love, then move forward with an open heart. However, if you\u2019re still grieving, then keep them at a distance or take a break before moving into a commitment.<\/p>\n If this new relationship has a chance to grow, there\u2019s no reason to rush things. Take it slowly and\u00a0get to know each other<\/a>. Don\u2019t let chemistry move the relationship forward quickly. Take time to find out if you are a values match and have what it takes to survive long-term. There are four tenets you need for lasting love: chemistry, compatible lifestyles, shared values, and communication skills.<\/p>\nRebound Love vs. Potential Lasting Love<\/h2>\n
How Serious Was Your Last Relationship?<\/h2>\n
7 Signs You\u2019re In A Rebound Relationship<\/h2>\n
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You\u2019re Afraid To Be Alone<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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You\u2019re Still Hurting Over Your Ex<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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You\u2019re Looking For A Savior<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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It Feels Oh So Exciting<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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Lost In A Fantasy<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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It\u2019s All About Sex<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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The Relationship Is Moving Lightning Fast<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
How To Go From A Rebound Relationship To Lasting Love<\/h2>\n
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