Before we share the perfect script for telling a guy you don\u2019t like him, first, let\u2019s get clear on what to avoid in this situation. We promise that you\u2019ll want to avoid these common mistakes.<\/p>\n The first mistake in telling a guy you don\u2019t like him is to make it all about him. Blaming him and bringing up behaviors of his you don\u2019t care for is unkind and immature. Sure, he may not be your cup of tea but telling him why and how he isn\u2019t the one for you isn\u2019t the kindest course of action. If you find that you are saying \u201cYou ___(fill in the blank)___\u201d a lot, and explaining\u00a0all the reasons he is wrong for you<\/a>, it\u2019s imperative to rethink your strategy.<\/p>\n You\u2019d like someone to be kind and respectful if you are on the receiving end, so treat him the way you\u2019d like to be treated in this situation and take responsibility for your decision. It\u2019s you that has a problem with him, so ultimately it\u2019s your problem.<\/p>\n It\u2019s unacceptable to look for some little thing he does that annoys you to blow up and use as a way to introduce the idea of never seeing him again. Trust us, you won\u2019t feel good about it (and neither will he).<\/p>\n If you want to know how to tell a guy you don\u2019t like him without being mean or cruel, don\u2019t take this passive\/aggressive approach to end it. Besides, if you could really pull this off, you\u2019d have starred in several movies or on Broadway by now.<\/p>\n Many people fear moving on concerned that they won\u2019t find anyone else. Realizing you don\u2019t want to be with someone any longer doesn\u2019t make you a bad person. But letting things just drag on because you don\u2019t know how to end it, or\u00a0don\u2019t want to be alone<\/a>\u00a0again is not doing either of you any favors.<\/p>\n You may be afraid that being single is going to be worse than the relationship you\u2019re in. The truth is you\u2019re only delaying your happiness and making the two of you miserable. It\u2019s better to rip off the band-aid and focus on healing your heart so that you can be prepared to meet your soulmate.<\/p>\n How to tell a guy you don\u2019t like him without being mean or cruel? Don\u2019t avoid the situation and hope that it will resolve itself without you doing anything.<\/p>\n You may think that ghosting him is the easiest and most comfortable option available to you. But\u00a0ghosting can leave a lasting mark<\/a>\u00a0on the recipient. He\u2019ll question what he did wrong, eating away at his confidence. He may even worry that something happened to you and spend hours trying to find out if you are okay.<\/p>\n A person who ghosts is immature, selfish, and insensitive \u2013 so you don\u2019t want to be this person. Besides, you\u2019ll feel terrible about yourself knowing that you took a cowardly way out of the situation. You\u2019re also setting yourself up for bad karma points when it comes to lasting love.<\/p>\n How to tell a guy you don\u2019t like him without being mean or cruel? Tell him respectfully in person, instead of just disappearing and hoping he forgets about you quickly.<\/p>\n Texting a break-up message is only one tiny step up from ghosting. Let\u2019s face it, sending a text message to end things is about as cold as you can get. It leaves him with no sense of closure and no ability to\u00a0have a conversation with you<\/a>\u00a0about it. Yes, breaking up with someone can leave you feeling anxious, but that anxiety is not going to harm you, nor will it last very long. And facing it will leave you feeling stronger and more confident.<\/p>\n There is only one exception to this rule: If he is abusive or you have a fear for your safety because of how he may react, then sending a text is probably your best bet.<\/p>\n Offering friendship may seem like the kindest thing you can do, but it\u2019s going to backfire on you. Because he does like you and doesn\u2019t want things to end, he\u2019ll be willing to agree and\u00a0settle for your friendship<\/a>. All the while, biding his time waiting, hoping, and praying for you to change your mind.<\/p>\n Ask yourself, if in the future when you are with your soulmate are you going to call this guy up and see if he wants to see a movie with the two of you or join you for dinner? That is what you would do with a friend. (Insert emphatic \u201cNo way!\u201d right here.) If you\u2019re over 35 you didn\u2019t start dating him to add to your friendship collection \u2013 so don\u2019t offer him a consolation prize.<\/p>\n You can certainly respond in a friendly way if you bump into him in the future, but he\u2019s not going to be your new pal. It\u2019s better if he knows there is no hope of things continuing so that he can get on with healing his heart.<\/p>\n How to tell someone you don\u2019t like them without being mean or cruel? Don\u2019t offer friendship as a consolation prize. You\u2019re only doing it to assuage your own guilt, so it\u2019s not a sincere offer.<\/p>\n Allowing him to twist into a pretzel to earn your love and affection is cruel. Perhaps you do like him somewhat but want him to change. He may like you enough to promise anything to stay together. If you allow him to dig into the details of what is wrong, you\u2019ll open the door to negotiate staying together. Then you\u2019re just going to regret the time you\u2019ve wasted allowing the relationship to drag on.<\/p>\n If you can\u2019t accept him as he is, then\u00a0he is not the man for you<\/a>. And if he\u2019s twisting into a pretzel in order to get you to stay, then he\u2019s going to end up feeling angry and resentful towards you.<\/p>\n You want to know how to tell a guy you don\u2019t like him without being mean or cruel, right? It\u2019s heartless to abdicate your responsibility in making a choice to end the relationship. Instead, follow these steps to tell someone you don\u2019t like them in a respectful way that empowers both of you to move on.<\/p>\n Through the dating process<\/a>, it\u2019s expected that you\u2019ll discover some people are not a match for you. Telling a guy you don\u2019t like him is a deselection process. You\u2019re not rejecting him as a human being, you\u2019re simply deselecting him as a contender.<\/p>\n It really isn\u2019t about him. It\u2019s about you and what you want in your life, what you know will bring you happiness. He\u2019s not wrong or bad, just wrong for you. Taking this into account when you are ready to move on will help you from feeling guilty.<\/p>\n Just as you would like to share your life with someone who is crazy about you, the guy you\u2019re deselecting deserves to be with someone who is crazy about him.<\/p>\n Agree to meet him for your scheduled date, and instead of going out, invite him inside and use the breakup script (at the end of this article). Do not go on a date with him and then at the end of an evening together deselect him. If you don\u2019t have a scheduled date, you can set it up the next time he reaches out to you.<\/p>\n A second-choice option (if you are unable to meet in person) is to do it over the phone. Never deliver this script via text message, nor any other text communication like chat or email.<\/p>\n How to tell a guy you don\u2019t like him? Do it in person and at the beginning of a date, not after he\u2019s taken you out again.<\/p>\n Choosing to breakup with someone ultimately isn\u2019t about them. It\u2019s about you and\u00a0what you want from life<\/a>. Own that. Be sure to speak about what you want, what you like, what you need, etc. There is no need to go over where he falls short, or any issues you may have with him.<\/p>\n How to tell a guy you don\u2019t like him? Talk about your experience and your needs and avoid placing blame on him.<\/p>\n He has a right to his feelings. How he responds to you informs you of who is. You only have control over your words and actions, and as long as you are respectful do not take responsibility for how he responds or reacts to your decision.<\/p>\n Open your heart to compassion and empathy for him because it\u2019s likely that he is not ready for the relationship to end. Offering friendship or indicating that your feelings could change in the future won\u2019t make the breakup easier for him.<\/p>\n How to tell someone you don\u2019t like them? Speak your truth with kindness and compassion and don\u2019t try to control their reaction or make it better for them.<\/p>\n Here is the perfect script for telling someone you don\u2019t like them that allows you to take responsibility for your decision with kindness and respect. It is brief and to the point for a reason. Getting into a lengthy discussion about why you feel this way or allowing him to negotiate with you is just going to make things more difficult and waste his time and yours.<\/p>\n Take a moment, ground yourself, and speak from your heart.<\/p>\n \u201cI know the kind of relationship I am looking for and it is clear to me that we are not a match. I know that your ideal match is out there, and I wish you the best of luck in your search for love.\u201d<\/p>\n Dating like a grown-up means you can treat someone respectfully and end the relationship without any drama. You must mean the words you\u2019re saying and wish him luck from your whole heart.<\/p>\n There is no need to elaborate further. If pressed with questions, you can rest assured this is further proof this person is\u00a0not a good match for you<\/a>. There is nothing more that needs to be said.<\/p>\n Telling someone that you don\u2019t like them, and that you want to move on doesn\u2019t have to be full of drama. You don\u2019t want to feel like you\u2019re a bad person for ending the relationship because the truth is, he is not your person. You both deserve to be in a relationship with someone who reciprocates your feelings and who really gets you.<\/p>\n Instead of agonizing over your decision and delaying the inevitable, speak kindly and compassionately and then move on with your life. It may sound insensitive, but not being honest or upfront with someone is treating them without respect.<\/p>\n Finding your soulmate can feel like a struggle and you may have to break up with a lot of guys before you finally meet your man, but it doesn\u2019t have to be this way. What if you could get on the fast track to the long-lasting, soul-satisfying love you desire?<\/p>\nHow NOT To Tell A Guy You Don\u2019t Like Him<\/h2>\n
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Putting The Blame On Him<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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Picking A Fight With Him<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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Letting The Relationship Drag On<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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Ghosting Him<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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Doing It Via Text Message<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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Offering Friendship As A Consolation Prize<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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Letting Him Negotiate To Stay Together<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
How To Tell A Guy You Don\u2019t Like Him With Respect And Compassion<\/h2>\n
The Steps For Respectfully Deselecting Someone You\u2019ve Been Dating<\/h2>\n
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Do It In Person<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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Use Only \u201cI\u201d Language<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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Don\u2019t Try To Control Or Mitigate His Reaction<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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The Only Breakup Script You\u2019ll Ever Need<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n