Are you spending sleepless nights obsessing about your ex? Constantly checking social media to see if their relationship status has changed? Annoying your friends because you can\u2019t stop talking about how and why things went wrong?<\/p>\n
It might be time to stop obsessing about your ex, quit the social media stalking, and focus on healing your heart<\/a>. When a relationship ends, it\u2019s easy to get stuck mulling over why it ended, what you did wrong, or how you can get your ex back.<\/p>\n It\u2019s common to feel regret and sadness when your heart feels broken, but when regret turns into an obsession, it can harm your mental health. Ultimately, this can reveal a deeper issue that may be blocking you from having the lasting love you desire and deserve.<\/p>\n The good news is you can heal your heart, and get back on track to creating a healthy, lasting partnership. One where you’re equally committed to working things out and making love last. But first, you must come to the realization that it\u2019s time to stop obsessing about your ex and focus on your own healing.<\/p>\n So, how do you know if you are just feeling the pangs of a broken heart or if your heartbreak is turning into an obsession?<\/p>\n It\u2019s time to stop obsessing about your ex if you can\u2019t focus at work or are having trouble sleeping most nights<\/a>. While it\u2019s normal to need time to heal after a breakup, it shouldn\u2019t take over your life and get in the way of accomplishing your everyday tasks.<\/p>\n If your friends start avoiding you or are annoyed with your constant need to talk about the relationship, then maybe it\u2019s time to stop obsessing about your ex. Your friends can be supportive through a breakup, but you can\u2019t expect them to be your therapist.<\/p>\n A soulmate relationship requires two people to choose each other. You may have felt a special connection with your ex, but this doesn\u2019t make them your beloved. Your soulmate will stick it out with you even when times are hard. You are not destined to be alone because your ex decided to move on.<\/p>\n If you’ve put your ex on a pedestal and think they can do no wrong, you’re in serious trouble. It takes two people for a relationship to work<\/a> out or to end, so do not take full responsibility for the demise of the relationship. It’s a good idea to remind yourself of your ex\u2019s negative qualities, and your efforts to stick through the tough times.<\/p>\n \u201cIf only\u2026\u201d There are infinite ways you can finish this sentence and all of them keep you stuck and not moving on from your ex. There is no hypothetical way that your relationship would have lasted. If the two of you could have worked it out, you would still be together. It\u2019s time to let it go and release the fantasy, you\u2019ll feel better too!<\/p>\n Stalking your ex like a private investigator, whether it’s online or off, keeps your heartbreak fresh and the wound open. You can\u2019t heal a broken heart by obsessing over their new relationship. Cut yourself off from stalking of all kinds and focus instead on your own recovery.<\/p>\n You\u2019ve called and texted and your ex hasn\u2019t responded<\/a>. You\u2019ve liked a post and sent a DM, but you get nothing back. These aren\u2019t real rejections because you\u2019re no longer in a relationship. Stop trying to get your ex to respond to you and focus on healing your heart.<\/p>\n If you recognize yourself in some of these examples, it\u2019s time to take some steps to heal your heart and move on with your life. While it may feel scary to admit that your relationship is truly over, you can take these steps below to ultimately find love that is lasting and fulfilling with someone that will stand by you.<\/p>\n You can\u2019t change a problem unless you recognize that you have a problem. Start by acknowledging that you\u2019ve been obsessing about your ex. Proclaim that you\u2019re ready to let them go and move on with your life<\/a>.<\/p>\n Acknowledging your obsession puts you in the driver\u2019s seat to create changes in the way you approach dating, mating, and relating. Taking responsibility will allow you to reclaim your power.<\/p>\n Hope is the first thing to enter a relationship and the last thing to leave. It is the hope that it could still work out between you that keeps you stuck and obsessed with your ex. Once you\u2019ve acknowledged that you have a problem, kill the hope that the two of you will ever get back together.<\/p>\n As long as you hold onto hope, your heart won\u2019t be free to love again. This may be the hardest step for you to take, but killing the hope will allow you to stop obsessing about your ex. This may sound harsh, but it is the path to claiming your power and the ability to love again.<\/p>\n You\u2019re wearing rose-colored glasses when you focus on getting your ex back without acknowledging that they were willing to leave you. Take time to journal about your ex and the things that made you feel badly. Remind yourself of the disagreements and their behaviors that drove you crazy.<\/p>\n Knock your ex off the pedestal. Acknowledging the truth of what was will help you to stop fantasizing about what you wish it to be. No person is perfect, and your ex probably has more bad qualities than you are willing to acknowledge right now.<\/p>\n Part of putting your ex on a pedestal requires you to take full responsibility for the breakup. No breakup is 100% one person\u2019s fault. Stop taking full blame for the relationship ending and acknowledge the dance you did together.<\/p>\n It\u2019s important to acknowledge your part in the relationship ending<\/a>, but you are only responsible for your 50%. Recognize the role your ex played in the breakup. If you want to stop obsessing about your ex, then keep your side of the street clean, but don\u2019t take responsibility for what\u2019s on your ex\u2019s side.<\/p>\n Spying on your ex via social media, you are pouring salt in the wound of the breakup. When you respond to your ex\u2019s text or phone call, you are keeping your heart tied to them. Your heart can\u2019t heal because the wound is still fresh. You need time for your heart to stop aching and allow the wound to heal.<\/p>\n Block your ex on all social media channels. Change their name in your phone to \u201cDo Not Answer.\u201d Request that your ex honor no contact for a minimum of twenty-one days allowing you both time away from each other to heal.<\/p>\n Forgiving your ex allows you to move on and frees your heart to love again. Forgetting how your ex hurt you<\/a> leaves you vulnerable to be hurt by them again. After you\u2019ve taken time to heal your heart it\u2019s time to focus on forgiveness. Forgive yourself for the mistakes you made. Forgive your ex for breaking your heart.<\/p>\n However, forgiveness doesn\u2019t mean that you allow someone back into your life like nothing happened. You don\u2019t want to forget what happened. If for some reason your ex wants to be a part of your life again, you\u2019ll want to know what is going to be different this time. The old dynamic didn\u2019t work. Only a new dynamic could allow the two of you to be friends again.<\/p>\n Stop obsessing about your ex and start creating a vision for something better. Instead of fantasizing about what could\u2019ve been, create a vision for your soulmate relationship<\/a>. A soulmate relationship isn\u2019t some magical thing that just happens by accident. Instead, you are both committed to working through challenges because you\u2019re better together than apart.<\/p>\n Learning from your past relationships allows you to choose a better partner moving forward. In order to do that you\u2019ll need to acknowledge what hasn\u2019t worked and adjust your strategies in your next relationship. This way you keep growing toward your highest and best self on the search for long-lasting love.<\/p>\n When you are obsessing about your ex, and what might have been, you are stuck feeling hurt and sad. To break this spell, you must commit to new strategies for love. If you\u2019re ready to move on from your ex, here is a roadmap that will guide you every step of the way to create a soulmate relationship. Download our free ebook, \u201cThe 7 Steps To Soulmating.\u201d<\/a> You\u2019ll get our best tips for creating the long-lasting, soul-satisfying love that you desire.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Are you spending sleepless nights obsessing about your ex? Constantly […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":4991,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"my.php","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[16],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-4990","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-heartbreak"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.loveonpurpose.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4990","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.loveonpurpose.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.loveonpurpose.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.loveonpurpose.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.loveonpurpose.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4990"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.loveonpurpose.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4990\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.loveonpurpose.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/4991"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.loveonpurpose.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4990"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.loveonpurpose.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4990"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.loveonpurpose.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4990"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}Signs That It\u2019s Time To Stop Obsessing About Your Ex<\/h1>\n
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Your Obsession With Your Ex Interferes With Your Daily Life<\/h2>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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You Obsessively Talk To Your Friends About Your Ex<\/h2>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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You Believe Your Ex Is Supposed To Be Your Soulmate<\/h2>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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You Describe Your Ex As Perfect<\/h2>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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You Fantasize Constantly About What Might Have Been<\/h2>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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You’re Consumed With Jealousy By Your Ex’s New Relationship<\/h2>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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You’re Triggered By Perceived Rejection From Your Ex<\/h2>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
Here\u2019s How To Stop Obsessing About Your Ex And Heal Your Heart<\/h1>\n
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Acknowledge Your Obsession<\/h2>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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Kill The Hope<\/h2>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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Take Off Your Rose-Colored Glasses<\/h2>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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Keep Your Side Of The Street Clean<\/h2>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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Block On Social Media And Your Phone<\/h2>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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Forgive, But Don’t Forget<\/h2>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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Get Clear On Your Vision For A New Relationship<\/h2>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n