The thing is I know I\u2019ve scared away other guys in the past by wanting things to move forward quickly, but this time I\u2019ve been going with the flow and letting him lead.<\/p>\n
I\u2019ve been upfront with him from the beginning that I want an exclusive relationship, and he told me he\u2019s also looking for that. It\u2019s been a few months and he hasn\u2019t mentioned exclusively dating me.<\/p>\n
What can I do?<\/p>\n
Tricia”<\/p>\n![](\"https:\/\/www.loveonpurpose.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/04\/new12.svg\")
Hi Tricia,<\/p>\n
Exclusivity is an important step in a new relationship. It says you\u2019re ready to turn off your dating profiles and discover if this budding romance has an opportunity to grow into something special<\/a>. There\u2019s so much hope riding on this decision, and too many people rush into exclusivity because they\u2019re excited by the instant intimacy they feel with someone new.<\/p>\n Do you really know he wants the same things you want? And how do you decipher his intentions so that you can feel confident moving forward?<\/p>\n The first question you need to ask yourself is, \u201cAre you ready for an exclusive relationship?\u201d<\/p>\n If he isn\u2019t planning dates with you ahead of time then he may not be interested in an exclusive relationship. He may like the convenience of dating you and enjoy your company, but that doesn\u2019t mean he\u2019s ready for more. Pay attention to his response when you\u2019re unavailable, and how far in advance he asks you out again. A guy who wants a convenient relationship without a commitment will disappear as soon as you stop dropping everything to see him.<\/p>\n A man who\u2019s interested in exclusively dating you will introduce you to his friends and family. He\u2019s not keeping his personal life a mystery<\/a>; he wants you to be part of it. If you know nothing about his friends or his family, then he\u2019s not serious about you because he\u2019s simply looking for a good time.<\/p>\n Just because you\u2019re ready for exclusivity doesn\u2019t mean he is. If you\u2019re moving things forward, then there\u2019s no space for him to step up. Back off and see if he steps up for you. See if he will fill the gap you\u2019ve left by making sure the two of you connect regularly. You\u2019ll discover if he\u2019s ready for an exclusive relationship with you. A guy who isn\u2019t ready will become scarce as soon as you stop putting in the effort<\/a>.<\/p>\n You have an amazing physical connection and can\u2019t keep your hands off each other. The sex is amazing<\/a>, but you never go out and spend time out in the world together. You\u2019re not going on traditional dates or spending time connecting emotionally. You\u2019re not meeting one another\u2019s friends or family, and the relationship is on the down low (you don\u2019t even tell your friends about it). This is a sign that neither of you is ready to date exclusively.<\/p>\n You\u2019ve had a few dates and feel like you\u2019ve met your soulmate. The conversation flowed easily, and you have a lot in common. It can be intoxicating to have a great connection right away<\/a>, but that intense feeling is not enough to start exclusively dating. Slow down and get to know each other first. Take time to discover if you share the same relationship values and want the same things out of life before going exclusive.<\/p>\n Most people jump into an exclusive relationship the instant they feel a connection. They don\u2019t take the time to discover who that person is and if they are a good match for the long term. They trust their gut and dive in heart first.<\/p>\n Ultimately, this is a recipe for wasting years with short-term relationships (roughly 3-8 months each). When you go too fast, you end up having to start all over when it doesn\u2019t work out. By slowing things down and dating a lot of people over time it becomes obvious when and who you\u2019re ready to start dating exclusively.<\/p>\n Date a lot of people and get a rotation going with a few guys. This way, you can compare how you feel with each of them. Use dating as a tool<\/a> to learn more about yourself and the dynamic you want between you and a beloved life partner. Dating this way, the cream will rise to the top and the man who is an ideal match for you will stand out above the rest.<\/p>\n A man who\u2019s ready for an exclusive relationship will not be subtle about it, he will be clear that he wants to be with you. He\u2019s moving the relationship forward by introducing you to his friends and family and booking you for future dates. You\u2019ll never have to guess what his intentions are.<\/p>\n Conflict is inevitable<\/a> in all of your relationships, particularly an intimate one. Love can be messy and it\u2019s important to know that you can have a disagreement and reconnect with each other. If you\u2019re ignoring disagreements, avoiding conflict, or not taking time to repair them, then your relationship is a ticking time bomb waiting to implode. However, if you\u2019ve moved through conflicts and you\u2019re able to reconnect and create a deeper connection with each other, then you may have found your special someone.<\/p>\n Authenticity is the key to emotional intimacy. When you\u2019re both authentic by sharing feelings, then you can begin building trust together. Authentic communication allows you to feel safe. No one is walking on eggshells or twisting into a pretzel to get love. Accepting each other \u201cAs Is,\u201d allows both of you to flourish. This is a great sign that you\u2019re ready for an exclusive relationship!<\/p>\n Pay attention to how he responds when you make a request<\/a>. If he honors your requests or makes his best effort, that\u2019s a sign that he cares for and respects you. However, if he gets defensive, makes a big deal about it, or downplays your feelings, then don\u2019t waste your time. This guy is not ready for an exclusive relationship and it\u2019s not your job to teach him how to behave like a grown-up.<\/p>\n When a man is interested in a relationship with you, he wants to make you happy. He\u2019ll be curious about your likes and dislikes. He\u2019ll make an effort to fulfill your wishes, and he will try to impress you. He knows that if he can make you happy, he can win your heart.<\/p>\n If you\u2019ve determined that your man is interested in you, how do you take that next step and move into an exclusive relationship? You don\u2019t want to seem too forward or scare him off, and you don\u2019t want to just sit back waiting and hoping that he takes the next step.<\/p>\n Asking him for exclusivity puts you in the masculine role. It forces him to decide, which may not bring you the clarity you seek. He may like you but may be unsure about the future with you. He might agree to exclusivity because he doesn\u2019t want to lose you, or he may feel pressured and back off. Either way, you\u2019ve lost a great opportunity to know his heart.<\/p>\n Instead, let him know how you\u2019re feeling and share your vision of the future you\u2019re creating. Let him know that you desire to be in an exclusive relationship with a man who wants the same things. Don\u2019t be subtle or coy<\/a>, hoping he\u2019ll pick up on your hints. Be clear about who you are and what you want. Leave space for him to either see his future with you or not.<\/p>\n Be prepared to move on if he wants to leave things in the gray. You don\u2019t want to waste your time hoping that he will one day step up to claim you. A guy who is unsure about you now may never be sure, and you deserve better. A man who wants to share his life with you will make sure no other man can come along to take you off the market.<\/p>\n If you walk away and he comes chasing after you, ask him what changed. Why is he interested in exclusively dating you now? Be sure to define the relationship rather than going back to being uncertain of his plans for the future.<\/p>\n Men are not subtle about their desires when they like a woman and want an exclusive relationship. You won\u2019t have to decipher each clue looking for a sign that he\u2019s ready. He\u2019ll let you know and act accordingly. Pay attention to his actions if you want to know how he feels about you.<\/p>\n If you find yourself regularly pursuing men, frustrated that they don\u2019t step up, or you can\u2019t seem to meet a man who is ready for a relationship then it\u2019s time for new dating strategies. Take the mystery out of dating and download our free report, \u201c7 Steps To Soulmating.\u201d<\/a> You\u2019ll receive our top dating strategies that have helped thousands to change their love patterns and finally create their soulmate relationship.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" “Hey Orna and Matthew, I want to be exclusively dating […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":5013,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"my.php","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[11],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-5012","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dating"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.loveonpurpose.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5012","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.loveonpurpose.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.loveonpurpose.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.loveonpurpose.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.loveonpurpose.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5012"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.loveonpurpose.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5012\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.loveonpurpose.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/5013"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.loveonpurpose.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5012"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.loveonpurpose.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5012"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.loveonpurpose.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5012"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}What Are The Signs That You\u2019re Not Ready For An Exclusive Relationship?<\/h2>\n
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He Only Reaches Out Last Minute<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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He Doesn\u2019t Include You In His Life<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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You\u2019re The One Moving Things Forward<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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Your Relationship Is Mostly About Sex<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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You Barely Know Each Other But Have An Intense Connection<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
What Are The Signs That You Are Moving Towards Exclusively Dating?<\/h2>\n
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Allow The Cream To Rise To The Top<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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He\u2019s Moving The Relationship Forward<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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Survived The First Conflict<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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You\u2019re Both Being Authentic<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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He Honors Your Requests<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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He Wants To Make You Happy<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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How To Ask For An Exclusive Relationship<\/h2>\n