The desire to partner up and procreate is an integral part of being human. It\u2019s built into species\u2019 survival. Humans are social animals who thrive in healthy communities. This doesn\u2019t mean that you\u2019re required to mate for life with one person. You can be perpetually single and happy with your life if you do it for the right reasons.<\/p>\n
There are many perks to being perpetually single. You have the freedom to live life on your terms. You can travel, change your profession, move to a new city, or even live like a nomad. When you don\u2019t have a spouse or children to consider then you can live however you want.<\/p>\n
It also comes with risks of loneliness or disconnection from others. Emotional connection is important to your mental health. Studies show that married people are happier than single people and live longer.<\/p>\n
So, how do you know if you\u2019re choosing to be perpetually single as a lifestyle choice or if you\u2019re choosing singlehood for the wrong reasons?<\/p>\n Those who are perpetually single by choice aren\u2019t afraid of being hurt<\/a>. They simply have other ambitions in life. Partnering up or even having sex is a distraction for them. They may be asexual and not driven by hormones. Personal relationships aren\u2019t a priority for them because they may have a calling for something much bigger in life. They cherish their alone time and are thrilled they can do as they choose without having to answer to or accommodate anyone else.<\/p>\n Choosing to be perpetually single means you don\u2019t have a secret desire to fall madly in love with someone\u2026 someday. These people aren\u2019t licking their wounds or wishing and hoping someone would show up out of the blue to change their life (like in a movie). They\u2019re content with their lives exactly as they are. They simply don\u2019t care if they find the love of their life because it\u2019s not even on their radar, much less a priority. They\u2019re not worried about ending up alone because they’re choosing singlehood purposefully.<\/p>\n People who consciously choose singlehood aren\u2019t blaming someone else for putting them in this predicament. They know their reasons and they own them. They\u2019re not looking to blame anyone or have an ax to grind. They\u2019ve simply decided that being on their own is exactly how they want their life to be. They aren\u2019t settling with being alone \u2014 they relish it!<\/p>\n People choose to be perpetually single because it\u2019s a lifestyle they desire, not because of disappointment or the pain of heartache. They\u2019re not letting their past dictate how they choose to live in the present, or what may be possible for them<\/a> in the future. They aren\u2019t hurt or angry that their love life didn\u2019t turn out differently.<\/p>\n People who\u2019ve chosen singlehood aren\u2019t looking for someone to complete them or heal their wounds. They appreciate themselves and don\u2019t expect perfection. They\u2019re comfortable with who they are<\/a> and are happy with the lives they\u2019ve created.<\/p>\n They\u2019re not perpetually single because they\u2019re stuck in a rut or afraid to risk their hearts. They\u2019ve chosen singlehood because their purpose either requires or encourages them to be alone. It could be volunteer work or a vocation that requires travel and makes it difficult to settle down. Their life choices encourage singlehood, and they\u2019re rewarded through their contribution to society.<\/p>\n All the sages say, \u201cKnow thyself,\u201d and people who choose singlehood may delve deep into a spiritual practice. Not all will take a vow of celibacy, but many remain celibate for years, even decades. For these people, the desire to create a connection to God, Source, Universe, or any higher power replaces the need for romantic relationships<\/a>. They are fulfilled by a different calling than most people and their relationship with themselves takes priority over any romantic entanglements.<\/p>\n The choice to be perpetually single can be an empowering decision, however, many people are settling with singlehood instead of taking action to have a thriving love life with an ideal mate.<\/p>\n If you choose to be perpetually single to avoid having to risk your heart, you\u2019re essentially trying to protect yourself from future pain. Building a fortress around your heart won\u2019t protect you forever, someone in your life could still hurt you. Instead of avoiding connecting with someone special, invest time in healing your heart. It\u2019s the only way to put the past behind you so you can allow love in again.<\/p>\n If you\u2019re afraid of losing yourself<\/a> or going into sacrifice in a relationship there are options besides settling with being perpetually single. Use time alone to get in touch with things that bring you joy and get clear on your goals in life. Most importantly develop healthy boundaries. When you\u2019re ready to get back into the dating game, you can focus on finding someone who shares your dreams and goals.<\/p>\n If you\u2019re fixated on giving your love to someone who doesn\u2019t offer love back or is emotionally unavailable, you lack self-esteem. Knowing that you\u2019re worth loving is an inner transformation that\u2019ll change your outer experience. When you value yourself, you\u2019ll find a partner who respects and cherishes you. Healing your core wounds allows you to grow your self-love and respect from the inside out and let love in even though it\u2019s messy.<\/p>\n You might be single because you\u2019ve set the bar too high. If you\u2019re expecting that you\u2019ll never have conflict<\/a> or miscommunication with your beloved, you\u2019re setting yourself up for disappointment. Your soulmate won\u2019t come with mind-reading powers. They won\u2019t intuitively know what you want and need. That is a romantic fantasy. No person is perfect, but there is someone perfect for you. Setting aside your unrealistic expectations doesn\u2019t mean you\u2019re settling for less. It means you have a mature understanding of what to expect in a relationship.<\/p>\n If you\u2019ve resigned yourself to being perpetually single because you think love won\u2019t last, or you\u2019re unlovable, or that love has to come from one specific person \u2014 you\u2019re experiencing limiting beliefs. These false beliefs keep you stuck in a pattern of heartache. This is one of life’s most valuable lessons because when someone you love hurts you it\u2019s an opportunity for growth. Don\u2019t shoot the messenger, we can assure you at some point you\u2019ll thank us for telling it to you straight. Fooling yourself by staying single will only drag out your pain.<\/p>\n Intimate relationships can easily trigger old wounds, and if you\u2019re overwhelmed by those situations then relationships will be difficult to maintain. Healthy relationships require you to start the process of healing your childhood wounds and learn how to communicate your feelings, especially when they\u2019re overwhelming. Blowing up at people, blaming them for your problems, and failing to clean up your disagreements will block you from lasting love. Lasting love requires a skill set that includes turning conflict into a deeper connection.<\/p>\n Maybe you\u2019re good at superficial relationships, or you have a lot of friends but can\u2019t seem to make any of your relationships work. It could feel like love is a mystery, and you don\u2019t know the rules of how relationships work. You see other people partnering up and you wonder why you can\u2019t seem to make a connection.<\/p>\n Lasting love requires vulnerability and communication skills. If you struggle to identify how you feel and communicate those feelings to another person, then intimate relationships will be difficult to maintain. It\u2019s more than just good sex.<\/p>\n Giving up on love because you\u2019ve been hurt is like eating a bad meal at one restaurant and deciding to never eat out again. Let us show you another way so you can share your life with the love of your life. Schedule a Breakthrough Call<\/a> with us to discover your unique journey to lasting love.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" When you\u2019re single, you can feel a lot of pressure […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":5030,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[68],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-5029","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-tired-of-being-single"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.loveonpurpose.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5029","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.loveonpurpose.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.loveonpurpose.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.loveonpurpose.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.loveonpurpose.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5029"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.loveonpurpose.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5029\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.loveonpurpose.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/5030"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.loveonpurpose.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5029"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.loveonpurpose.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5029"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.loveonpurpose.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5029"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}7 Lessons From People Who Chose To Be Perpetually Single<\/h2>\n
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People Who Choose Singlehood Aren\u2019t Afraid Of Being Hurt<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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They Never Worry About Ending Up Alone<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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They\u2019ve Taken Responsibility For Their Choice<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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They\u2019re Not Setting Expectations Based On Past Experiences<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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They\u2019ve Focused On Self-Love<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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They\u2019ve Created Meaning In Their Singlehood<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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They Have A Spiritual Calling<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
5 Signs You Haven\u2019t Chosen To Be Perpetually Single And You\u2019re Justifying Your Singlehood (aka Settling)<\/h2>\n
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You\u2019re Protecting Your Heart<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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You\u2019re Not Good With Boundaries<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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You Don\u2019t Value Yourself<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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You Have Unrealistic Expectations<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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You Have Limiting Beliefs About Love<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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You\u2019re Easily Triggered And Can\u2019t Manage Your Big Emotions<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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You Don\u2019t Understand How Relationships Work<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n